People who lie never see the holes in their lies, whether subtle or glaring. Anyone who listens well can pick up even the subtle lies. I've done it and challenged the liars to explain the inconsistencies, and all I ever got for my trouble was another round of lies, some of which conflicted with the original lie and others which presented entirely new inconsistencies. My conclusion: Trying to get sense out of a chronic liar is a pointless endeavor.
The mental gymnastics are fascinating to watch, but only up to a point. After that, they're just annoying. I've also experienced the disheartening with one of my sisters and with someone who I thought was a good friend. When I finally understood that the lying was a chronic condition, I disengaged from both.
People who lie never see the holes in their lies, whether subtle or glaring. Anyone who listens well can pick up even the subtle lies. I've done it and challenged the liars to explain the inconsistencies, and all I ever got for my trouble was another round of lies, some of which conflicted with the original lie and others which presented entirely new inconsistencies. My conclusion: Trying to get sense out of a chronic liar is a pointless endeavor.
The mental gymnastics are fascinating to watch, but only up to a point. After that, they're just annoying. I've also experienced the disheartening with one of my sisters and with someone who I thought was a good friend. When I finally understood that the lying was a chronic condition, I disengaged from both.