My wife and I are (were) very close with another couple, hanging out with them at least once weekly. They have ghosted us the last few months. I talked to my friend (him and his wife are both double injected and boosted) and he informed me they have been hiding because she is pregnant, four months along now. I congratulated him and invited them over for dinner. He texted me the next day asking myself and wife and kids to take a Covid test prior to their coming, which he would provide. I told him no and explained how Kary Mullis the inventor of the test said it can’t be used for that, and I texted him the pdf of “Breaking the Spell” and referred him to the chapter debunking the Covid test which takes less than five minutes to read. He simply replied “then we will decline the invitation”. My wife is upset because we hung out with them all the time during Covid while she was pregnant with our most recent child. We also have several young children (vs. being pregnant with one) and we aren’t asking them to take a test.
Wouldn’t it have been more polite for him to decline the invitation outright, than ask someone to take a test to go to their house for them to make you dinner?!
I’m just venting to look for support and see what other people say about this situation and if I’m crazy for not wanting to talk to these people ever again. Thanks
I get what you’re saying but I’m at the point I’m not interested in being friends with people like this anymore. Time is precious and I would prefer to spend it with non sheep.
You mentioned they've been ghosting you for a few months. Seems they already made the decision on the level of relationship, which is far below what you were putting in. Healthy relationships are reciprocal. They stopped reciprocating. If you invest more into this, you will likely experience more loss emotionally. Need to grieve the loss of the friends you THOUGHT you had (it's hard but healthy), and cultivate connections with those that share your values: loyal and trustworthy, who can mutually give and recieve. Best wishes Fren.
Thank you!