I see a lot of post here about broken friendships and family relationships.
I have a good system I'd like to share.
I have a handful of very close friends and family that are diverse and I've managed to maintain those relationships flawlessly. Here is how.
For starters: If debate you must, then debate from a center point. You don't have to be disingenuous, but you can tone down your beliefs, or you can at least pivot from a neutral aspect.
My family knows how I really feel, yet I am able to still debate them respectfully from the center. If we can move their views from MSM to neutral, thats a big step.
Example;
Them: "What do you think about war in Ukraine?"
Me: "Both sides are garbage."
Them: "Fair point."
Vs.
Me: "Putin is saving the world and satanist are trafficking children in Ukraine in secret underground tunnels!"
A bit dramatic, but thats 100% how it sounds to normies. Thats stressful. Thats too much.
(Funny note: Remember season 2 of stranger things how they had to break the srory of Barb to the public? That is exactly how we must approach this.)
Next step: Stop. Spamming. Your. Loved ones!
Stop sending them walls of text about how the vaccine will kill them. Stop going off about adrenachrom.
That is toxic behavior. Even if you are right. Tho, we can never be certain, we should always remember there is a possibility we are wrong. Humble yourself.
It is not your job to save them. They are adults, respect them and treat them as such.
Warn them once or twice is fine, but going beyond that is abusive.
Just like a pro vaxxer trying to force you to take the vax. Because they are scared for you. Just as scared as you are scared for them.
Realize both sides are coming from a place of love. But its not healthy love. You can't force viewpoints onto people. You can't shelter them from the real world. Stop trying to parent your peers!
At the end of the day. We are all adults. We all make our own choices. We all live with consequences, none of us are perfect. Let them be free to falter.
Side point: Remember, the truth isn't for everyone. Its stressful. Your loved ones have their own lives, their own stresses and headaches. The last thing they need is an Alex Jones rant bombarding them when theyre just trying to live life as best they can.
God doesn't need you to save them. All he needs is for you to carry your own weight.
Which leaves me to my last advice: Be the example.
Come to terms with all of this. You need to stop living in fear. Find your peace, and live your life accordingly. If you can find peace and happiness in these times. If you can concor fear, if you can be the stable level headed one. Then guess what?
People will naturally follow you. You don't have to then turn around and cram every bit of info you have into their brains. No. Be neutral. Be there for what and when they need.
Not for when you need to vent your fears and frustrations onto people.
We aren't saviors. We are guidpost at best. Remember to love and respect even the normalest of normies. Treat them how you want to be treated. Be patient. Let go, stop trying to controll them. Work on yourselves, always work to be done in thay area for all of us. Thats the healthiest, kindest way we can help people. By working on ouselves so we can be stable and strong in the worst of times.
Closing:
You aren't bad for not constantly warning everyone. Stop carrying that burden around!
You didn't do this to the world, and its okay to let go!
Its okay to talk about superfical things with loved ones. Even do things like shop at stores you don't support (Occasionally)
Compromise.
Let yourself enjoy the time we do have together. You will realize how healing it is for both of you.
Talk about gardening, go fishing. (Hey, theyre skillsets anyway right?)
Enjoy life together outside of politics and world events. It is very possible. I promise. God bless and much love frens.
I've found it's almost impossible at this point to debate at all.
Probably because when one side of the debate stems from absolute known bullshit, where can I come to meet them in the middle? Accepting some bullshit is okay at times, but not when it's the jump off point
If debate you must. If you can't find middle ground then don't debate at all.
If they can't leave it be. If they're being the toxic and controlling sudo parent. If they won't resect your wishes to enjoy mutal time some other way. Then they are wrong, and its not okay behavior. No matter their political veiws. Id distance myself.
Yes, I have.
It just sucks.
Im sorry fren. I know it can get lonely out there. You always have us at .win.
It is difficult, and it helps to think back to when you woke up yourself. You followed the bread crumbs and put this all together over years, I'm assuming. All the while, the person you're debating has been served plateloads of propaganda and internalized it, likely over a longer time period. Trying to give too much info at once is like unloading a bread truck on their heads. I liken it also to when someone is severely dehydrated. You starts them with little sips at first, as letting them chug water could kill them. Another thing to consider is that they're like addicts. They have to want to understand, even just a little.
You know how Q planted the seeds? He asked questions about things. Showed us where to start looking. The mastery of breadcrumbs is what I call it. Self discovery and incremental realization is the most potent creator of belief. Drop breadcrumbs and see if they research. If they do, they may come back and want to discuss what they found. Drop more breadcrumbs and plant the seeds. Eventually they no longer have a choice about the red pill or blue pill. Once you know, you can't unknow. Psychologically speaking, being in a group with access to secret information is the most alluring group to join. Everyone wants to feel special and even exceptional. This is how counter-culture always develops. Everything that becomes mainstream develops an eventual counter-culture that questions or outright rejects the mainstream. Some people just gravitate to being independent, these are the ones that begin the revolution and question the narrative.
If they won't do anything to research anything on their own, then you cannot help them. They have to find out the consequences of their own actions. I think we have too many of these anyway, Darwin needs the sacrifices.
I think some know that things I've told them in the past have come out into public view now.
I/we are miles ahead of where they are, so I'll let the proof drip out and I won't have to say a word
That’s the way! Subtle and humble
I don't cast my pearls before swine.