This ties right in to awakening and realizing that the “women’s liberation” movement in more recent times has merely been a psyop, meant to separate children from their mothers’ influence and presence. Women from the Boomer generation right on down to Gen Z have been told since childhood “get your education, start a career, get married, be a mother. You can do it all and have it all.”
I am the 30-something grown child of a Boomer woman with said education and busy career, and no, you cannot fucking do it all and have it all. My entire life has been impacted by that lie, and the resulting necessity for two incomes to even think of staying above water.
As a result of never seeing my mother for entire days sometimes during my childhood and teen years (not her fault at all, life is expensive and she & my dad did what they had to do for us kids), I have rebelled SO hard against that notion—and caught an incredible amount of flack for it from FAMILY of all people.
I had the grades, the test scores, the accolades and awards, athletic prowess, EVERYTHING…and then as I grew older and went off to college, I inexplicably fell apart academically. I had no drive. I didn’t care. I flailed about from major to major, considering the military even. It took many years to realize just how profoundly I had been affected by my mother’s absence, and that excelling in college and having a career meant my own future kids would suffer that same fate.
I have never been unloved, neglected, hungry, or abused. Other than missing my mom all the time, I had a magically fun and safe childhood, running wild with cousins and friends before technology chained us to couches and beds.
I am living proof of just how important having mom (or dad!) around all the time is. I’ve been impacted for a lifetime by my childhood, even though it was filled with love and all my needs & wants met. And I have chosen to sacrifice the big house, fancy cars, and constant vacations so many of my peers strive for to simply BE THERE for the little one growing inside of me. Thankfully my husband is fully on board, and makes plenty to offset my smaller secondary income.
Whether they’re working from home or staying home, one parent should be with the kids and available to them at all times. Because I am not bringing life into this world just to hand him or her to strangers so I can “have it all”. That lie has pulled mothers away from their children for three generations now, and it ends HERE.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
I was homeschooled K-12 along with my five siblings by our dear mother. She realized basically everything you said in the late 80s and made sure she was the one to stay home and raise us.
I’m praying the Father so blesses my little family, as 10+ years married and waiting almost the same about of time for our first is very trying. May you be granted the patience and stamina it takes to fully steward another human. I encourage you to read through the book of Proverbs over the next 12 months, the wisdom it contains to teach us how to parent is not found anywhere else <3
I hope you are blessed soon.
Hi yeet. Get yourself to an ivf doctor. I was married 20 years with no protection - we were hoping they would arrive. I'm 43 with my first after 7 cycles of ivf and alot of money and 3 miscarriages -8 years of doctors. If I hadn't listened to my husband and waited till we thirty and financially secure before deliberately trying alot of this heartache would have been needless.
Not all women after 30 have good eggs. I finally had a lucky miracle month. Thank God.
My point is it took a toll on me. Those injections are no joke ( gained 20 lbs with each try) and fertility help works better when you are still young. Pregnancy as well. My health is a mess now.
Read the book "taking charge of your fertility" by Toni weschler if you aren't ready for medical intervention. It is a fertility Bible. First thing ivf doctor asked was if I had charted temperatures and cycles for a year. He wanted to see them.
Thanks for your testimony, but I am not called to do any medical intervention through the hands of doctors. My brief experience 8/9 years ago was extremely unpleasant and they could do nothing further. The Father has used my life to help others regardless of if I am able to bear children. They are not a requirement for me to do the will of the Father. I’m not making my life all about having a child, in that way they become an idol.
I am extremely blessed even without children, the time my marriage has had to grow during this season is something I cherish.
Oh well if you re happy then all is well.
Castor Oil packs on your ovaries, with heat pad every other day for several months while not trying to conceive. Do it daily in your luteal phase if you’re trying to conceive. Never do it while on your period. Also take Vitex as a supplement, it helps regulate your hormones and keep your cycle consistent. DIM also helps regulate estrogen. Maca Root as well is known to help fertility. Best wishes! I too don’t trust doctors. I’m always researching alternatives.