Been going through it for over a year now. My ex committed adultery and fraud, but due to IL’s no-fault laws, I can’t use any of that in court. I get punished instead by having to pay her spousal maintenance and all that. Just like the rest of the judicial system, there’s no justice. I know this is personal to me, but I see stuff like this happening to so many people, and I strongly feel that the attacks on the nuclear family and the feminism crowd have a lot to do with it. The system rewards immorality and criminality, and punishes those who do the right things.
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your not alone fern ...been to that party
Add CPS to the list.
Long long overdue for sure.
Yes. It must.
Being personal to you doesn't make it less worthy of attention, or less worthy of reform. Just like all politics are local, all policies are personal. The family courts are one of the biggest contributors to the breakdown of society, from drug use to teen pregnancy, to gangs and crime. And of course, promoting and rewarding those who choose to celebrate victimhood as a way of life. Stay strong, fren. Prayers.
"Just like all politics are local, all policies are personal."
I think that is a great insight.
The system is absolute bullshit. Women's equality is not about equality, it is about legal dominance. Women can do whatever they want and still take half of your money, if not more.
Same thing happened to my sister in Ohio. Her now Ex-spouse waited until the children turned 18 and then filed for divorce. He got the condo, the rental property, the trailer, the boat, his financial account. She got the house, which probably back then was worth $150,000-$175,000, if that 28 years ago. He was delusional, saying how he “took care of her”. She was the wage earner. He was a sometimes Lake Erie captain in the summer. He had income from a rental, but didn’t work a steady job. He didn’t care much about their children. His son has a rocky relationship with him. Sometimes it is the luck of the draw with the attorney and judge you get. It often works both ways, although generally it favors the woman. My theory is, you want the divorce you pay the attorney fees. If you are able bodied, no one pays spousal support. You have joint custody, no one pays child support. But if there is a non-custodial parent that one pays. No hiding funds under a private business. You don’t pay,your car, house, bank account is taken by the court and doled out to the custodial parent for child support. Your driver’s license and passport are flagged so if you try to make any major purchase the courts know. I totally agree, the court system is unfair and there are dead beat fathers and mothers out there.
Same thing happened to me, brother. I feel your pain.
Ex stepped out and threw away the marriage, but I had no say in who kept the kids and had to pay child support along with alimony. Kids are grown up and I'm out from under the alimony bullshit, but that burn lasts forever.
IL is indeed a shitty state for dads.
That's why men should abstain from relationships and having a family. A British noble (judge) could decide that a prenup is worth nothing, and the man is still stuck giving her half of everything he has, including whatever he owned before the relationship even started.
Europe is totally cucked, even worse than the US from what I hear. And I've been through the US family court, so I know it's bad.
Also maybe related is overuse of antidepressant meds by women.
What’s up with that? I suspect like everything it is designed to destroy families.
If imagine eventually it will. Q asked us to get involved at the local level with school boards etc. Hopefully it'll start at the top level and local levels and meet in the middle. Where WWG1WGA
Good luck Fren. The system has been rigged against fathers since its inception. If you want a good relationship with your kids the best option is to give up any idea of justice and just be as physically close and available to them as possible. Hopefully the criminal family injustice system (designed to destroy family undoubtedly) falls when the rest of it does. Until then, spend as little time as possible in the legal system and stay close and magnanimous with your kids and ex. It’s the only boy way to get what you really want. It’s hard. The system is designed to make you incredulous and angry. All the best!
Hopefully as they replace the Soros judges with conservative judges, things will get better.
Every single court needs to be overhauled. None of them are legal since they aren’t courts, they’re ports