Let them live there, but they must really help in the home. Laundry, meal planinng, cooking, yard work, put in a garden. There is a great deal they both could do that contributes to the wellbeing of the household. This is up their wheelhouse, learning productive stuff. Can your son do an oil change? Your daughter likes to crochet, she could do family mending. Expand your thinking. Sounds like your daughter wants to be a traditional wife. But she needs the skills to go with it. If they can’t work at home make them volunteer for like the local gleaners organization or another non-profit. Your house, your rules. As for you, red pill them everyday. Teach them to be patriots. Are you a person of faith? Start teaching them what will trully give them the confidence in life.
Necessity is the mother of invention. They're only going to talk about gardening and occasionally pay for shit if you allow this behavior. Act like a head of your house... you are in charge correct?
Cook only enough for you and your wife, give them the gas/electric bill and ask them what they think is a fair portion to pay. Hand her some seeds and shovel and tell her to contribute instead of talk about it.
My best friend and I would still be living together to this day if he hadn't fallen in love. In 6 years I can count on one hand how many times he did the dishes... I swear he was allergic to doing dishes but I always had my laundry folded and on my bed whenever I'd forget and I can't count on my fingers and toes how many times he loaned me money.
You ain't gotta be perfect but you do have to give more than you receive to make the world better. They'll just keep taking instead of giving. Even at the most elemental biological growth only happens... I don't want to lift weights but my muscles grow when they're uncomfortable and ripped to shreds by me. That doesn't mean I hate my body for making it uncomfortable and testing it's capabilities it actually means I care more.
Do you want a fat gut on your lazy children? Do you want them dumb and lazy? Beat them at chess, grow a better garden and keep track of who lost at penny poker. Remind them you produced more lettuce, remind them you're eating crab and steak because you earned something by making yourself uncomfortable and they can go grill up a chicken after they pluck it... hand them the chicken and knife.
Make them uncomfortable or they're never going to grow... the art of being a parent is doing so in such a style that they can't deny you love them.
Let them live there, but they must really help in the home. Laundry, meal planinng, cooking, yard work, put in a garden. There is a great deal they both could do that contributes to the wellbeing of the household. This is up their wheelhouse, learning productive stuff. Can your son do an oil change? Your daughter likes to crochet, she could do family mending. Expand your thinking. Sounds like your daughter wants to be a traditional wife. But she needs the skills to go with it. If they can’t work at home make them volunteer for like the local gleaners organization or another non-profit. Your house, your rules. As for you, red pill them everyday. Teach them to be patriots. Are you a person of faith? Start teaching them what will trully give them the confidence in life.
Necessity is the mother of invention. They're only going to talk about gardening and occasionally pay for shit if you allow this behavior. Act like a head of your house... you are in charge correct?
Cook only enough for you and your wife, give them the gas/electric bill and ask them what they think is a fair portion to pay. Hand her some seeds and shovel and tell her to contribute instead of talk about it.
My best friend and I would still be living together to this day if he hadn't fallen in love. In 6 years I can count on one hand how many times he did the dishes... I swear he was allergic to doing dishes but I always had my laundry folded and on my bed whenever I'd forget and I can't count on my fingers and toes how many times he loaned me money.
You ain't gotta be perfect but you do have to give more than you receive to make the world better. They'll just keep taking instead of giving. Even at the most elemental biological growth only happens... I don't want to lift weights but my muscles grow when they're uncomfortable and ripped to shreds by me. That doesn't mean I hate my body for making it uncomfortable and testing it's capabilities it actually means I care more.
Do you want a fat gut on your lazy children? Do you want them dumb and lazy? Beat them at chess, grow a better garden and keep track of who lost at penny poker. Remind them you produced more lettuce, remind them you're eating crab and steak because you earned something by making yourself uncomfortable and they can go grill up a chicken after they pluck it... hand them the chicken and knife.
Make them uncomfortable or they're never going to grow... the art of being a parent is doing so in such a style that they can't deny you love them.