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I could put a lot into this, but I'm going to keep it as brief as I can with still getting my point across. My sister and her husband are hard core liberals. During Halloween, she has always dressed as a witch. And every year, she tells everyone, "I'm a good witch". Ya, I don't think such a thing exists. I was over there having dinner one evening and as I was leaving, she mentioned with a very sinister look on her face, said that she got her granddaughter a witch outfit, and she was going to teach her all about it. Her granddaughter is about 4. I can only imagine the look on my face when she said that. Now to my reason for the post. Regarding my family, her and I are all that is left. our folks are gone. Every year for a long time, we always did Thanksgiving at her house. Big dinner with friends over and everything. Things have just been getting more odd with them over the past few years. I've been thinking about how I feel when I'm around them, and I'm thinking about just doing my own thing this year. Getting my favorite cut of meat (tri-tip roast) and making myself my favorite meal. Treat my dogs to some as well and just take a break from everything and think about the day and enjoy it properly. What would be really great is to gather with a group of fellow anons and also celebrate the day. I realize that idea may be a bit late, but maybe a great idea for next year. Because I really think next year is going to be far different than any Holiday season than we have ever experienced. Either way, I just don't think I should be around the constant negative energy and gaslighting that I have to deal with every other time I am over there. They always find some way to bring up some anecdote about how the abortion laws in our state prevented someone from getting a procedure done or some hatred for President Trump, or some other BS. I'm just done with it all. And I'm sure I'm not the only one in this boat.
My wife and I do not do family thanksgivings. Her sister and her husband are libtards. Her parents are republicans but not awakened. The only real family I have is also cucked. So we just stick to ourselves.
Either way, we are hermits and family gatherings make us plenty uncomfortable especially having to be around normies is not worth the time.
Don't be afraid to just do you and not waste your time on people..because you are "supposed" to
I've skipped plenty a Thanksgiving meals with my one sibling and her family many times, not for politics, but for alcohol consumption when i was getting sober , in a way, that was the negative energy i avoided. i also brought my son a few years to volunteer and attend the community Thanksgiving dinner that happens in the town I live near, and it was not just poor people that attended, a mix of Americans, no politics, just a community feast.It taught my son very valuable lessons regarding true charity and volunteering time. Family is what you make of it, not blood related all the time. There are so many places across the country that provide an opportunity to join others in giving thanks on this day. There is no need to be alone, but being alone is also not the worst thing in the world, I've also done that, and survived it just fine. Visiting a nursing home to sit with random people who are also alone, the lonely person with dementia may love having a person sit with them and sing the song "We gather together to ask the Lords blessing", they probably remember the words. So many options to keep your energy positive!
I guess you are looking for someone to assure you that its okay no to be around people who put out constant negative energy, even if they are all the family you have. And thats absolutely correct. You dont need negative energy in your life, no matter who is bringing it in. If you decide enough is enough, thats enough. Hope you will have a great and positive holidays!
This! Family, "friends", does not matter who.
If they bring your frequency down, there is no need to keep pretending.
That being said telling people you are done with them especially family is easier said than done..but simply not going or driving or flying is enough. The message is eventually understood