She sounds like she is bluffing to scare you away from making demands about not exposing the kid to her alternative lifestyle. Depending on the state though, her incautious life is open to questions from the court on its suitability for custody. She sounds like she knows that, and is scared, and is going on offense. If she never filed charges, this is something family law courts regard with groans. She also appears to be trying to protect her relationship now by smearing you. She knows you can go to her partner and tell her that she slept with you while presumably she was in this relationship with this woman, which will not go over well I can imagine. Someone who does this is not secure in her relationship with her female partner. Ask yourself what you want. If you want her back, or not, you can play the card of "I am an honest guy and this won't work as a co-parenting arrangement if we are lying to each other, so full disclosure, lady partner, and I'm sorry but we were going at it while you were together and you deserve to know if you are going to be part of this." Tossing that bomb will enrage her but probably destroy the between her and her lover trust also. If you are patient, I predict this relationship is dying out of its own accord with no further help from you. She might want to return to the stability, the normalcy, and the sex to be with you. If you want this, it might be worth playing a long game with patience and strategy.

Don't panic over her threats to try to scare you or manipulate you. Most good judges sort through the juvenile actions fast and cut to the point of what they expect. But it is costly. Avoiding lawyers save so much money and grief.

I recommend not communicating with her at all until she sobers up, calms down, and gets out of this relationship that is clearly pushing her into criminal territory of making false allegations against you. You pulling away and out of her life for good leaves her with her own questionable decision-making. She has no one to blame to impress the gf. When the wave comes at you, dive under it.

She sounds like she is bluffing to scare you away from making demands about not exposing the kid to her alternative lifestyle. Depending on the state though, her incautious life is open to questions from the court on its suitability for custody. She sounds like she knows that, and is scared, and is going on offense. If she never filed charges, this is something family law courts regard with groans. She also appears to be trying to protect her relationship now by smearing you. She knows you can go to her partner and tell her that she slept with you while presumably she was in this relationship with this woman, which will not go over well I can imagine. Someone who does this is not secure in her relationship with her female partner. Ask yourself what you want. If you want her back, or not, you can play the card of "I am an honest guy and this won't work as a co-parenting arrangement if we are lying to each other, so full disclosure, lady partner, and I'm sorry but we were going at it while you were together and you deserve to know if you are going to be part of this." Tossing that bomb will enrage her but probably destroy the between her and her lover trust also. If you are patient, I predict this relationship is dying out of its own accord with no further help from you. She might want to return to the stability, the normalcy, and the sex to be with you. If you want this, it might be worth playing a long game with patience and strategy.

Don't panic over her threats to try to scare you or manipulate you. Most good judges sort through the juvenile actions fast and cut to the point of what they expect. But it is costly. Avoiding lawyers save so much money and grief.

I recommend not communicating with her at all until she sobers up, calms down, and gets out of this relationship that is clearly pushing her into criminal territory of making false allegations against you.

She sounds like she is bluffing to scare you away from making demands about not exposing the kid to her alternative lifestyle. Depending on the state though, her incautious life is open to questions from the court on its suitability for custody. She sounds like she knows that, and is scared, and is going on offense. If she never filed charges, this is something family law courts regard with groans. She also appears to be trying to protect her relationship now by smearing you. She knows you can go to her partner and tell her that she slept with you while presumably she was in this relationship with this woman, which will not go over well I can imagine. Someone who does this is not secure in her relationship with her female partner. Ask yourself what you want. If you want her back you can play the card of "I am an honest guy and this won't work as a co-parenting arrangement if we are lying to each other, so full disclosure, lady partner - we were going at it while you were together." Tossing that bomb will enrage her but probably destroy their trust also. If you are patient, I predict this relationship is dying out of its own accord with no further help from you. She might want to return to the stability, the normalcy, and the sex to be with you. If you want this, it might be worth playing a long game with patience and strategy.

Don't panic over her threats to try to scare you or manipulate you. Most good judges sort through the juvenile actions fast and cut to the point of what they expect. But it is costly. Avoiding lawyers save so much money and grief.

She sounds like she is bluffing to scare you away from making demands about not exposing the kid to her alternative lifestyle. Depending on the state though, her incautious life is open to questions from the court on its suitability for custody. She sounds like she knows that, and is scared, and is going on offense. If she never filed charges, this is something family law courts regard with groans. She also appears to be trying to protect her relationship now by smearing you. She knows you can go to her partner and tell her that she slept with you while presumably she was in this relationship with this woman, which will not go over well I can imagine. Someone who does this is not secure in her relationship with her female partner. Ask yourself what you want. If you want her back you can play the card of "I am an honest guy and this won't work as a co-parenting arrangement if we are lying to each other, so full disclosure, lady partner - we were going at it while you were together." Tossing that bomb will enrage her but probably destroy their trust also. If you are patient, I predict this relationship is dying out of its own accord with no further help from you. She might want to return to the stability, the normalcy, and the sex to be with you. If you want this, it might be worth playing a long game with patience and strategy.