I taught my son a long time ago to not say, "I hate this", regarding food, or a chore or a piece of clothing that made him uncomfortable (spectrumy sensory stuff), instead I told him to say "I don't care for this, or, "this makes me uncomfortable", the word switch up helped him regulate. I live in the USA, I am a citizen, this gives me the right to express myself, and others, the same. I really do not want that to change, ever. Compassion is important to remember when dealing with others, a kind approach will open anothers ears, a harsh approach done with loathing will not only close the persons ears, they will also reject the entire point you are trying to make. We carry the truth like a precious gift, so if you can regulate your emotions around it , bring it as a precious gift to set someone free, not to shove it down their throats like you are drenching an animal. There are also occasions that just do not call for direct confrontation. Family gatherings, dinner time, chit chat with neighbors you meet at market. Living by example. The conundrum for me is, how to show compassion to people who are deliberately provoking me to anger with their lack of compassion? "Love my enemies". That takes almost a lifetime of practice, because at 73, it is easier than at any other time of my life. Maybe because I learned that the hate and "passion" of that hate took it's toll on me, the stress of it, the way it fouls my day. I can say that I hate abuse of the innocent, the abuse of animals, the pollution that evil brings. I still have violent thoughts about all who perpetuate that. I have learned that turning it over to God helps. Believe me, I have dropped to my knees in sobs, at times, to do this. When I do, I feel HIS arms around me. HE will take care of it, all I have to do is continue to follow the Gospel and remain humble.
I taught my son a long time ago to not say, "I hate this", regarding food, or a chore or a piece of clothing that made him uncomfortable (spectrumy sensory stuff), instead I told him to say "I don't care for this, or, "this makes me uncomfortable", the word switch up helped him regulate. I live in the USA, I am a citizen, this gives me the right to express myself, and others, the same. I really do not want that to change, ever. Compassion is important to remember when dealing with others, a kind approach will open anothers ears, a harsh approach done with loathing will not only close the persons ears, they will also reject the entire point you are trying to make. We carry the truth like a precious gift, so if you can regulate your emotions around it , bring it as a precious gift to set someone free, not to shove it down their throats like you are drenching an animal. There are also occasions that just do not call for direct confrontation. Family gatherings, dinner time, chit chat with neighbors you meet at market. Living by example. The conundrum for me is, how to show compassion to people who are deliberately provoking me to anger with their lack of compassion? "Love my enemies". That takes almost a lifetime of practice, because at 73, it is easier than at any other time of my life. Maybe because I learned that the hate and "passion" of that hate took it's toll on me, the stress of it, the way it fouls my day. I can say that I hate abuse of the innocent, the abuse of animals, the pollution that evil brings. I still have violent thoughts about all who perpetuate that. I have learned that turning it over to God helps. Believe me, I have dropped to my knees in sobs, at times, to do this. When I do, I feel HIS arms around me. HE will take care of it, all I have to do is continue to follow the Gospel and remain humble.
Humble is a concept that needs to be brought up more often. Humble puts things in perspective.