I have been planning on moving out of this cesspool for a while, i am in the process of buying some property in southern Oregon but now I think that is a mistake as well. This Friday, my county goes into “high risk level”... AGAIN! these fuck heads are never going to let this shit go away! So many cucks here that feel “safe” for having the gubment tell them what to do and how to live there lives! I cant stand it! The county I am buying property in is also going to high risk level. So I am not sure they are as based as I thought even though its a red county.
I lost my job at the end of January because I kept asking too many questions about the bullshit china virus shit that they didnt feel I was a good fit for the team. Been on unemployment ever since and my claim just expired. I put in another application and we shall see what happens. I have an interview on the 23rd for an electrical apprenticeship since I don’t enjoy working in healthcare anymore.
My spouse and I don’t really see eye to eye on really anything. My spouse is ultra liberal and I am conservative with libertarian views. I have been thinking of a divorce because we always fight and can never see eye to eye about most things. I just don’t know how to go about a divorce because of my Christian upbringing. I’m honestly nervous about going about it. But I’m not happy in this marriage and I’m not happy where I live. I always have a place to live with family in Idaho where masks don’t mean shit and libtards are few and far between. Not sure what to do. I have been praying about it and asking for your prayers too. Thanks everybody!
I am also near Portland for the moment and hate it. I want out of this state as soon as possible. I realize your wife does not share your views, but do you still love her? Is she still your best friend? What brought you together in the beginning?
Before you do a trial separation or suggest a divorce, I think you need to talk to her honestly about how you're feeling about everything. If you aren't happy with the marriage or where you live, tell her. It can feel very isolating to be the only one in a marriage with certain views, so tell her if that's how you feel. Does she have any idea that this is an issue between you guys? She might not realize how you feel, so before you dump her, try talking to her (it might take several conversations) and expressing what you're feeling...and listen to what she says as well. Did you do premarital counseling? Maybe finding a good counselor or pastor to mediate your conversations would help.
I think a lot of marriage problems are the result of poor communication and misunderstandings. Yeah, sometimes there are other issues... and maybe you will end up divorcing, but at least do your part as her husband to make an effort to communicate your feelings and work on repairing things before you write her off completely.
I personally don't support trial separations because you can't work on your issues when you're apart, and when things are stressed in the marriage and you leave...of course it's going to feel better and seem like the better option. Taking a trip to visit family for a week or so, sure that's great! But you need to go back and face the issues between you.
It isn't your job to change your spouse, but do love her and pray for her and be an example of Christ and his love for us to her. Get up and go to church every week, even if she doesn't (invite her every week). Pray for her, let her see you praying for her, pray outloud over her before bed. Refocusing your attention on your relationship with God will help you, and maybe help her and your marriage as well.
I care for my spouse but not in love anymore. Hardly speak to each other anymore. Been married since 2018 and things quickly changed right after the marriage with trying to change me and the sex was even a struggle. Haven’t had sex since 3 months after getting married. Not that that’s all i want, but it is a part of a relationship and I’m at the point that i dont even want it because i feel that there are going to be a multitude of strings attached.