Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some tips re: how to have a close, connected relationship with my wife who's asleep. We have been drifting further apart since I started waking up since November. Do any of you have a GOOD STRONG CONNNECTED relationship with your spouse who's asleep? Any tips?
I'm not looking for tips on how to wake her up because often my attempts to red-pill has caused even more disconnect. I'm looking for tips for how to have a GOOD STRONG CONNECTED relationship despite the awake vs. asleep difference.
For context of our difference, my wife was double-vaxxed ASAP and disregards my conclusions about anything when people in authoritative positions say otherwise. We're both Christians, but it's different now. I think I was spiritually woken up and I see the world differently. She's asleep and not interested in waking up and I feel like she wants me to fall back asleep in order to connect. Problem is.. I don't want to go back to sleep. Any tips are appreciated!
Stay on your mission, lead, and she will follow. It seems as if you’ve lost ‘frame’ (if you ever had it before). Not a dig - but my wife asked what I’d do if she got the vaccine and I told her that’d probably be grounds for divorce given the fertility issues with it. I was completely serious as I want more children. She laughed and said she was kidding but knew I wasn’t.
Some would say that’s harsh - she says that’s why she married me.
Lead from the front.
That's awesome, man. You have a real marriage. So glad to hear stories of hope from those men who would never stoop to being the beta in their own marriage.
Yeah, it’s sad to see honestly. Death by a 1000 concessions. Slow erosion from the man on mission that they fell in love with, to the comfortable, soft beta.
Regardless when feminism (which infiltrates every aspect or society including the pulpit) talks about walking side by side, equality in spouses, yada bs yada, in practice it will ALWAYS result in one spouse taking the lead and the other following.
Feminism is a supremacy movement, not an equality one, and will almost always lead to the wife taking the head of the household. The mere fact a man is asking for guidance on a ‘connection’ with their wife over an issue like this absolutely boggles my mind. Not in the sense I’ve never seen it, but very difficult to relate in my own dealings.
The problem with women taking the head in a marriage is they almost ALWAYS grow bored of their husband, lose respect for him, and at the first chance will monkey branch to a better deal. There’s a reason 80% of divorces are filed by women. On top of the law supporting no-fault divorces, they see the ‘alpha’ they married (at least in their eyes) in the wedding photos, and the beta they have to wake up to each morning.
Be the man your wife would cheat on you with and you won’t have to worry about it.
BOOOM. That's really well said.
I've seen men completely transform their marriages for the better just by shedding their beta game and moving up to alpha. Their wives want to be loved and respected, of course, but their wives despised and looked down on them until their men turned it around and took the leadership role.
Meanwhile, those who know better remain cucks--complaining about femi-nazis out one side of their mouths while moping around their houses watching themselves grow smaller and smaller and smaller in their wives' esteem.
It's hard to overstate how important it is to CHOOSE a wife. You don't promote your girlfriend to a wife, you find a wife and you take it seriously. Also, men of the men here, even though they are awakening, grew up with beta cuck dads. They don't actually know what it looks like to be in the place of manly protection and guidance in their homes.