Mal adaptive coping skills. Everyone processes differently, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Sometimes traumatic events at a young age set the stage. Everyone is unique and everyone has learned to process differently. Recognizing and then changing (or accepting) the things you can’t control are actually signs of a high EQ. I’m often too kind which is perceived as weakness. When I weigh the circumstances, I realize I’d rather stay true to my kindness and take the hits rather than become an egomaniac. Try not to be a moron.