I am a single father of two sons who live with me. I love them and try to provide the best for them in life.
We are Christian and all that and attend church when we can; altho they go with their mom on weekends.
Lately i have become incredibly depressed by everything going on. I was mostly unaffected by Covid, I have prepped a large stash of stuff just in case, and for the most part my life isnt too objectively bad.
Dating has been hard and i am beginning to despair of ever finding a partner in this area and with the morass of online dating sites being the suckholes that they are.
Ironically being depressed and trying to date isnt the best combo so im just spiraling down on the regular.
I have prayed to God to send me someone who he intends for me, but thus far no luck.
I feel like theres nothing left for me in life. Nothing i want or need. I am hanging in there for my sons and my parents but you can only live for someone else for so long, and i feel my time is growing short.
Any advice to cheer me up? At 43 i have too far left to walk to do it alone but feel as though ive walked too far already to make finding someone a possibility.
And with all the vaxxing im not keen on meeting someone whos going to randomly sudden death on me, so im there at the viewing saying "im just thankful for the 6 great months we had together."
Ive lived and worked with pain and i just dont want any more, and God knows what ive been through...
My professional advice when the blues come on a bit too much: 1. no alcohol. ETOH is a depressant in the nervous system. No excuses. No booze, beer, wine - nothing. 2. Clean up your diet - eat mostly veggies, mostly fresh, and fish or chicken for now - hormones in commercially grown red meat can wreak havoc on moods and only eat unprocessed carbs like brown rice or ancient grains. 3. No processed food and no junk/fast food. 4. No white sugar in the top three ingredients - or at all (best), including corn syrup. Just ask a diabetic what sugar does to their moods. 5. Look at online herbal supplements like St. John's Wort, Kava Kava, 5-HTP, Ashwaganda for physical and emotional pain/stress, and to simplify a busy life as a working single dad, just get one pill with all that in there. I always recommend this one:
Trio Mood Joy 5-HTP Capsules | 60 Day Supply | Natural Mood Booster to Promote Calmness and Relaxing Sleep with Ashwagandha, St Johns Wort, & Turmeric
and it's not expensive. Amazon sells it too. Deliver it to your door. Great for aches and pains too.
And finally: A daily workout. Swim. Bike. Run. Box. Your call. Let all that emotion fuel you and leave it on the asphalt.
Do all this and your natural happy self will come through as you meet good based conservative Christian ladies. It will happen. You're clearly a great guy. Don't let this BS beat you in the world today. The best is yet to come.
Thankfully I quit drinking a few years back. It almost killed me, no hyperbole.
I'll try the dietary stuff and maybe some of the supplements. I quit taking big pharma pills a year or more ago, except for my blood pressure but even those may go soon if I keep up the good work