Iβm getting really close. Ending our 30th Anniversary vacation in WA trying to help my mom move down with us to MO and dealing with worldβs most impossible irrational person isnβt proving fun.
She has Osteoarthritis and keeps breaking bones and just had two emergency back surgeries and my youngest brother took pictures of her house, turning her in to adult protective services to get it condemned. 40+ years of hoarding with literal goat trails and her 1979 mobile home is full of black mold and ceiling giving out. All she will do is blame everyone else and make mean comments. My siblings are all writing her off and dumping on me now.
Thanks. She has always had a mean streak a mile wide and I usually got the worst of it but Iβm now finding out that my much younger siblings got the brunt of it when I moved out at nineteen (the first second I got a chance) and they were still little. She divorced my dad when I was seven, remarried a year later and began a new family. Now the mean streak is ten miles wide. Iβm really close to telling her βIβm done tooβ because Iβm already getting knots in my stomach over it. Hadnβt seen her in the two years since we left WA and she is so much worse and her health is too. She told me yesterday she can just air out and bleach things and that those with a clean house are lazy. πππππ. When I asked how she planned to bleach black mold from her insulation-crickets.
I went through this also with my father in law who lived in another state. Same thing - hoarding, moldy mobile home, floor falling in, bug infestation. In retrospect my husband and I wish we would have let him be or let social services find him a place to live.
Instead we took him in temporarily. The entire situation harmed the state of our marriage, and it took almost 2 years to recover from 4 months of dealing with him. He went to live with another relative in another state who later died, and the person who got the house in the will cannot get him out! (NY, covid, refuses to leave) It is a hot mess! All for a POS who had very little to do with my husband his entire life and would only contact him every couple of years when he needed money.
His other children had enough sense to write him off decades ago.
Iβm getting really close. Ending our 30th Anniversary vacation in WA trying to help my mom move down with us to MO and dealing with worldβs most impossible irrational person isnβt proving fun. She has Osteoarthritis and keeps breaking bones and just had two emergency back surgeries and my youngest brother took pictures of her house, turning her in to adult protective services to get it condemned. 40+ years of hoarding with literal goat trails and her 1979 mobile home is full of black mold and ceiling giving out. All she will do is blame everyone else and make mean comments. My siblings are all writing her off and dumping on me now.
I'm so sorry. It's hard as they get older.
Thanks. She has always had a mean streak a mile wide and I usually got the worst of it but Iβm now finding out that my much younger siblings got the brunt of it when I moved out at nineteen (the first second I got a chance) and they were still little. She divorced my dad when I was seven, remarried a year later and began a new family. Now the mean streak is ten miles wide. Iβm really close to telling her βIβm done tooβ because Iβm already getting knots in my stomach over it. Hadnβt seen her in the two years since we left WA and she is so much worse and her health is too. She told me yesterday she can just air out and bleach things and that those with a clean house are lazy. πππππ. When I asked how she planned to bleach black mold from her insulation-crickets.
I went through this also with my father in law who lived in another state. Same thing - hoarding, moldy mobile home, floor falling in, bug infestation. In retrospect my husband and I wish we would have let him be or let social services find him a place to live.
Instead we took him in temporarily. The entire situation harmed the state of our marriage, and it took almost 2 years to recover from 4 months of dealing with him. He went to live with another relative in another state who later died, and the person who got the house in the will cannot get him out! (NY, covid, refuses to leave) It is a hot mess! All for a POS who had very little to do with my husband his entire life and would only contact him every couple of years when he needed money.
His other children had enough sense to write him off decades ago.
Life is too short to help certain people!