I feel you and I also feel your children. They are seeking a higher purpose in life—at least higher than the gerbil wheel for pay pellets. Your daughter is a beautiful soul who wants to be loved and respected. I’m guessing she found work cold, probably mean, and made her feel de-humanized. I know exactly how she feels because I was once just like her. She is right. However, I was also in survival mode and didn’t have parents that I could move in with. It was either work in the world as I found it or live under a bridge.
Perhaps you could encourage them both to start a small business doing something they love, even if it won’t make them rich anytime soon. Gently tell them you know the way the world works is not ideal but we have to play the cards we are dealt.
I also have two adult children. My oldest tried real hard to fit into the work world. Literally worked 60-80 hours a week his whole short adult life. Got stressed. He also had adult ADD and tried to self medicate. He is now in the spiritual world. Other son, after 2 years of being in grief for his brother, went to community college to learn a trade and is now employed as a welder. He’s doing ok but if he decided to move back in to re-evaluate, go back to school, read books, play music, or raise goats, I’d be glad I can offer him a place to be. A home and a bit of property is what my husband and I earned for a lifetime of corporate slavery. If I can pass to my son a little bit of freedom from being absolutely beholden to a job just to pay bills and taxes, I am grateful.
I think your kids will find their way. I’ve heard worse stories of how people got their kids back after sending them to college. Sounds like your children are good human beings, and to me, that is a treasure.
I feel you and I also feel your children. They are seeking a higher purpose in life—at least higher than the gerbil wheel for pay pellets. Your daughter is a beautiful soul who wants to be loved and respected. I’m guessing she found work cold, probably mean, and made her feel de-humanized. I know exactly how she feels because I was once just like her. She is right. However, I was also in survival mode and didn’t have parents that I could move in with. It was either work in the world as I found it or live under a bridge.
Perhaps you could encourage them both to start a small business doing something they love, even if it won’t make them rich anytime soon. Gently tell them you know the way the world works is not ideal but we have to play the cards we are dealt.
I also have two adult children. My oldest tried real hard to fit into the work world. Literally worked 60-80 hours a week his whole short adult life. Got stressed. He also had adult ADD and tried to self medicate. He is now in the spiritual world. Other son, after 2 years of being in grief for his brother, went to community college to learn a trade and is now employed as a welder. He’s doing ok but if he decided to move back in to re-evaluate, go back to school, read books, play music, or raise goats, I’d be glad I can offer him a place to be. A home and a bit of property is what my husband and I earned for a lifetime of corporate slavery. If I can pass to my son a little bit of freedom from being absolutely beholden to a job just to pay bills and taxes, I am grateful.
I think your kids will find their way. I’ve heard worse stories of how people got their kids back after sending them to college. Sounds like your children are good human beings, and to me, that is a treasure.