Our son was sober for 5 years. He contracted cellulitis back in February. His leg swelled to 5+ times its normal size so the docs in the hospital had him on a cocktail of meds, including pain killers. They knew his history but had to put him on the pain meds. Well, yesterday, he was arrested. He had meth and heroin. He had lost a lot of weight with the cellulitis after his 1 month hospital stay. He comes over on Fridays when my husband always fries fish. He seemed normal but I asked him if he was on drugs because of his weight loss and he told me no and that he'd take a drug test. I should have tested him but trusted he was being truthful.
Our hearts are shattered. He called earlier wanting us to bail him out but we told him no. I told him he was the one who made the decision to start taking drugs again and that he has to face the consequences of his poor choices. He threatened to hang himself. I told him that wouldn't solve anything but if he made that choice we were not responsible and we sure as hell would not feel guilty. He hung up. He tried to call again but now, I've turned off my phone. He'll have a hearing next week and hopefully the judge will decide that he can go to rehab before his trial and whatever time he is given.
Anyway, I know firsthand from previous asks that your prayers are powerful. Asking for our son and for our family. Thanks so much!
FWIW, your story is almost exactly the same as a good friend of mine. It really hurt them to tell their son 'no' for bail. The son was looking to go into the big house but the court gave him another chance and go to rehab. The son did and has been on the road to recovery. He finally understands that words don't mean squat and actions are what counts. Make promises and keep them. Best of luck to you and your wife. All prayers and love.
Thank you, Pillar. As of yet, we don't know when the hearing will be held. We're thinking the judge will not grant bail but instead give him the choice of rehab or he can stay in jail. I'm the wife, lol. Thanks for your prayers and love. We appreciate them so much!