"Family" courts have little to no expertise in actually helping families.
We went through a similar situation with our grandsons and son, but in reverse: the boys were in their dad's custody and did well in school, saw their mother and grandparents regularly, and were well adjusted. But their mom, with the help of a shady lawyer, began to badger the boys to convince them she "needed" them to be with her and repeatedly petitioned the court to give her custody. It took five years of "family counselors" who had no training in parental alienation and believed everything she had badgered the boys into saying to finally get a judge who looked at the whole thing and ruled, "This is ridiculous. The boys are not attending school, their mother does not allow them to see their father or grandparents. They did much better with him and should be with their father."
However, they were by that time within 6 months of turning 18, so the judge said, "I'm sorry, it's just too late. We can't make them do anything." Neither boy graduated high school, and the mother is now shacked up with her third live-in boyfriend to whom she is "engaged". What a joke, and what a crime to have destroyed these two boys' futures. We need to figure something out for families like these besides "family court".
"Family" courts have little to no expertise in actually helping families.
We went through a similar situation with our grandsons and son, but in reverse: the boys were in their dad's custody and did well in school, saw their mother and grandparents regularly, and were well adjusted. But their mom, with the help of a shady lawyer, began to badger the boys to convince them she "needed" them to be with her and repeatedly petitioned the court to give her custody. It took five years of "family counselors" who had no training in parental alienation and believed everything she had badgered the boys into saying to finally get a judge who looked at the whole thing and ruled, "This is ridiculous. The boys are not attending school, their mother does not allow them to see their father or grandparents. They did much better with him and should be with their father."
However, they were by that time within 6 months of turning 18, so the judge said, "I'm sorry, it's just too late. We can't make them do anything." Neither boy graduated high school, and the mother is now shacked up with her third live-in boyfriend to whom she is "engaged". What a joke, and what a crime to have destroyed these two boys' futures. We need to figure something out for families like these besides "family court".
Thanks for the info. I have no clue about this.
Justice system is broken here.