I am also near Portland for the moment and hate it. I want out of this state as soon as possible. I realize your wife does not share your views, but do you still love her? Is she still your best friend? What brought you together in the beginning?

Before you do a trial separation or suggest a divorce, I think you need to talk to her honestly about how you're feeling about everything. If you aren't happy with the marriage or where you live, tell her. It can feel very isolating to be the only one in a marriage with certain views, so tell her if that's how you feel. Does she have any idea that this is an issue between you guys? She might not realize how you feel, so before you dump her, try talking to her (it might take several conversations) and expressing what you're feeling...and listen to what she says as well. Did you do premarital counseling? Maybe finding a good counselor or pastor to mediate your conversations would help.

I think a lot of marriage problems are the result of poor communication and misunderstandings. Yeah, sometimes there are other issues... and maybe you will end up divorcing, but at least do your part as her husband to make an effort to communicate your feelings and work on repairing things before you write her off completely.

I personally don't support trial separations because you can't work on your issues when you're apart, and when things are stressed in the marriage and you leave...of course it's going to feel better and seem like the better option. Taking a trip to visit family for a week or so, sure that's great! But you need to go back and face the issues between you.

It isn't your job to change your spouse, but do love her and pray for her and be an example of Christ and his love for us to her. Get up and go to church every week, even if she doesn't (invite her every week). Pray for her, let her see you praying for her, pray outloud over her before bed. Refocusing your attention on your relationship with God will help you, and maybe help her and your marriage as well.

I am also near Portland for the moment and hate it. I want out of this state as soon as possible. I realize your wife does not share your views, but do you still love her? Is she still your best friend? What brought you together in the beginning?

Before you do a trial separation or suggest a divorce, I think you need to talk to her honestly about how you're feeling about everything. If you aren't happy with the marriage or where you live, tell her. It can feel very isolating to be the only one in a marriage with certain views, so tell her if that's how you feel. Does she have any idea that this is an issue between you guys? She might not realize how you feel, so before you dump her, try talking to her (it might take several conversations) and expressing what you're feeling...and listen to what she says as well. Did you do premarital counseling? Maybe finding a good counselor or pastor to mediate your conversations would help.

I think a lot of marriage problems are the result of poor communication and misunderstandings. Yeah, sometimes there are other issues... and maybe you will end up divorcing, but at least do your part as her husband to make an effort to communicate your feelings and work on repairing things before you write her off completely.

I personally don't support trial separations because you can't work on your issues when you're apart, and when things are stressed in the marriage and you leave...of course it's going to feel better and seem like the better option. Taking a trip to visit family for a week or so, sure that's great! But you need to go back and face the issues between you.

It isn't your job to change your spouse, but do love her and pray for her and be an example of Christ and his love for us to her. Get up and go to church every week, even if she doesn't (invite her every week). Pray for her, let her see you praying for her, pray outloud over her before bed. Refocusing your attention on your relationship with God and it will help you, and maybe help her and your marriage as well.

I am also near Portland for the moment and hate it. I want out of this state as soon as possible. I realize your wife does not share your views, but do you still love her? Is she still your best friend? What brought you together in the beginning?

Before you do a trial separation or suggest a divorce, I think you need to talk to her honestly about how you're feeling about everything. If you aren't happy with the marriage or where you live, tell her. It can feel very isolating to be the only one in a marriage with certain views, so tell her if that's how you feel. Does she have any idea that this is an issue between you guys? She might not realize how you feel, so before you dump her, try talking to her (it might take several conversations) and expressing what you're feeling...and listen to what she says as well. Did you do premarital counseling? Maybe finding a good counselor or pastor to mediate your conversations would help.

I think a lot of marriage problems are the result of poor communication and misunderstandings. Yeah, sometimes there are other issues... and maybe you will end up divorcing, but at least do your part as her husband to make an effort to communicate your feelings and work on repairing things before you write her off completely.

I personally don't support trial separations because you can't work on your issues when you're apart, and when things are stressed in the marriage and you leave...of course it's going to feel better and seem like the better option. Taking a trip to visit family for a week or so, sure that's great! But you need to go back and face the issues between you.

It isn't your job to change to change your spouse, but do love her and pray for her and be an example of Christ and his love for us to her. Get up and go to church every week, even if she doesn't (invite her every week). Pray for her, let her see you praying for her, pray outloud over her before bed. Refocusing your attention on your relationship with God and it will help you, and maybe help her and your marriage as well.

I am also near Portland for the moment and hate it. I want out of this state as soon as possible. I realize your wife does not share your views, but do you still love her? Is she still your best friend? What brought you together in the beginning?

Before you do a trial separation or suggest a divorce, I think you need to talk to her honestly about how you're feeling about everything. If you aren't happy with the marriage or where you live, tell her. It can feel very isolating to be the only one in a marriage with certain views, so tell her if that's how you feel. Does she have any idea that this is an issue between you guys? She might not realize how you feel, so before you dump her, try talking to her (it might take several conversations) and expressing what you're feeling...and listen to what she says as well. Did you do premarital counseling? Maybe finding a good counselor or pastor to mediate your conversations would help.

I think a lot of marriage problems are the result of poor communication and misunderstandings. Yeah, sometimes there are other issues... and maybe you will end up divorcing, but at least do your part as her husband to make an effort to communicate your feelings and work on repairing things before you write her off completely.

I personally don't support trial separations because you can't work on your issues when you're apart, and when things are stressed in the marriage and you leave...of course it's going to feel better and seem like the better option. Taking a trip to visit family for a week or so, sure that's great! But you need to go back and face the issues between you. My mother was Christian and my father was an ex-Catholic/agnostic, they had both agreed that divorce was not a word they would ever use in their marriage...and she spent years praying over him and he finally came back to Christianity.

It isn't your job to change to change your spouse, but do love her and pray for her and be an example of Christ and his love for us to her. Get up and go to church every week, even if she doesn't (invite her every week). Pray for her, let her see you praying for her, pray outloud over her before bed. Refocusing your attention on your relationship with God and it will help you, and maybe help her and your marriage as well.