Lalahemingway...

I fully understand where your brother is currently. I struggled for 6.5yrs trying to do it 'On my own'.

The longest tenure of being sober was 1yr. The shortest only 5 minutes after I cried Crocodile tears to my parents that I was done using.

Then proceeded to steal one of my mother's credit cards to get high.

One is nor truly within her/his right mind when one is addicted. One's brain chemistry is altered to which ever substance(s) one chooses to utilize.

Smh, I was not a good person back then. I was filled with darkness and had no relationship with God or Jesus Christ.

I did not believe in either nor the 'other guy' who had me within myself imposed bondage. I used to rail against all things of Light, especially to those who were Christ centered.

I was a complete arse hole. I'd go out of my way to bring my hellish state of mind and life upon them because I was a miserable bass turd back then.

I started with porn at the age of 8yrs, the 4th grade. Started to smoke then too. My addiction increased chasing the various highs my body, mind sought to always increase the dopamine levels in my brain from my addictive choices.

No loved one can 'force' another loved ones choices to become sober. A judge sure in hell can.

My middle brother had 2 options when he wrapped his car around a telephone pole... Jail time or go into treatment which he opted for.

That's when my family had a pseudo wake up moment with our addictive behaviours. My brother was 21 at the time.

To help him with his sober way of living back then the family also had to come clean. Admit how each one of us ie myself, 2 older brothers and my Poppa kept each other stuck.

Of course we all had our agency. As an addict the world was my oyster especially when this brother was also a Coke dealer.

Gd hell crazy wicked times. That was the only time I stopped that particular addiction cold turkey after a huge scare of reality of intense chest pain that scared me straight off of Coke, yet my addict mind and self wasn't ready to embrace sobriety.

I was constantly flipping my addictive behaviours. One NEEDS to find the root cause(s) why.chooses to use. Fix that particular issue within ones life then work on the substances.

I Will pray for your brother and others. God knows His children who need His help. He is no respector of persons. His Love is universal.

All the best you

Lalahemingway...

I fully understand where your brother is currently. I struggled for 6.5yrs trying to do it 'On my own'.

The longest tenure of being sober was 1yr. The shortest only 5 minutes after I cried Crocodile tears to my parents that I was done using.

Then proceeded to steal one of my mother's credit cards to get high.

One is nor truly within her/his right mind when one is addicted. One's brain chemistry is altered to which ever substance(s) one chooses to utilize.

Smh, I was not a good person back then. I was filled with darkness and had no relationship with God or Jesus Christ.

I did nor believe in either nor the 'other guy' who had me within myself imposed bondage. I used to rail against all things of Light, especially to those who were Christ centered.

I was a complete arse hole. I'd go out of my way to bring my hellish state of mind and life upon them because I was a miserable bass turd back then.

I started with porn at the age of 8yrs, the 4th grade. Started to smoke then too. My addiction increased chasing the various highs my body, mind sought to always increase the dopamine levels in my brain from my addictive choices.

No loved one can 'force' another loved ones choices to become sober. A judge sure in hell can.

My middle brother had 2 options when he wrapped his car around a telephone pole... Jail time or go into treatment which he opted for.

That's when my family had a pseudo wake up moment with our addictive behaviours. My brother was 21 at the time.

To help him with his sober way of living back then the family also had to come clean. Admit how each one of us ie myself, 2 older brothers and my Poppa kept search other stuck.

Of course we all had our agency. As an addict the world was my oyster especially when this brother was also a Coke dealer.

Gd hell crazy wicked times. That was the only time I stopped that particular addiction after a huge scare of reality of intense chest pain that scared me straight off of Coke, yet my addict mind and self wasn't ready to embrace sobriety.

I was constantly flipping my addictive behaviours. One NEEDS to find the root csuse(s) why.chooses to use. Fix that particular issue within ones life then work on the substances.

I Will pray for your brother and others. God knows His children who need His help. He is no respector of persons. His Love is universal.

All the best you