Correct ..respect and loyalty is ...LOVE..she failed at both! Saying I love you is like saying I hate you, just different emotions ..my Fren , I’m a female , I’m also a Marriage family therapist .if you don’t run from this , I’ll See you in a few years! Be grateful that you aren’t married .. you are already making excuses for her deceptive betrayal..”..you said “ I understand why she did it “ I hear that with infidelity issues a lot !
“Her hands were tied” . Her hands are supposed to be tied to you not the establishment ! So her job and money were important enough to her to make the decision to be disloyal to you ....you mention ..she could have spoken to you first ..so you are setting up yourself to dismiss this . You will here I’m so sorry , I didn’t want you to worry , I knew what you would say bla bla .. family turned against each other in other times in history, without TRUST you do not have a commitment....I suggest you listen to WHAT you said and understand that you need to dig deep into your own heart and soul because you are already making excuses for betrayal , disloyalty and STUPIDITY . Dear God man , let that sink in !