Disagreements among a married couple are NOT the issue.

The issue is whether both partners are mature in handling the disagreements and differences, or at least show a willingness to grow in maturity. If one of the partners can only have emotion based visceral reactions to a disagreement, a counterargument, etc, then that should have already been a red flag earlier on, not their specific views and opinions that are different from your own.

But working with each other through disagreements is the key. The fact is we all have the temptation to beat our spouse into submission on certain issues big or small, whether overtly or through manipulation, passive aggressive behavior, ultimately sliding into neglect from being resentful, etc. If we can own up to our own shortfalls our spouses are more likely to do the same, sometimes even begin to listen when unpopular views are expressed.

I understand there are certain matters of potential life and death that can't wait for mature marital growth, but even still be the reasonable and level headed one, and show a willingness to acknowledge where your spouse is at in his/her thinking and perspecitve when different from your own (hypothetical example: I am consuming news and info to make right decisions and keep us ahead of a disastrous future for ourselves and our children. My spouse simply sees an Internet alt media junkie who's escaping real world problems at home in these fantasy notions of saving the world). Acknowledging goes a long way.

Disagreements among a married couple are NOT the issue.

The issue is whether both partners are mature in handling the disagreements and differences, or at least show a willingness to grow in maturity. If one of the partners can only have emotion based visceral reactions to a disagreement, a counterargument, etc, then that should have already been a red flag earlier on, not their specific views and opinions that are different from your own.

But working with each other through disagreements is the key. The fact is we all have the temptation to beat our spouse into submission on certain issues big or small, whether overtly or through manipulation, passive aggressive behavior etc. If we can own up to our own shortfalls our spouses are more likely to do the same, sometimes even begin to listen when unpopular views are expressed.

I understand there are certain matters of potential life and death that can't wait for mature marital growth, but even still be the reasonable and level headed one, and show a willingness to acknowledge where your spouse is at in his/her thinking and perspecitve when different from your own (hypothetical example: I am consuming news and info to make right decisions and keep us ahead of a disastrous future for ourselves and our children. My spouse simply sees an Internet alt media junkie who's escaping real world problems at home in these fantasy notions of saving the world). Acknowledging goes a long way.

Disagreements among a married couple are NOT the issue.

The issue is whether both partners are mature in handling the disagreements and differences, or at least show a willingness to grow in maturity. If one of the partners can only have emotion based visceral reactions to a disagreement, a counterargument, etc, then that should have already been a red flag earlier on.

But working with each other through disagreements is the key. The fact is we all have the temptation to beat our spouse into submission on certain issues big or small, whether overtly or through manipulation, passive aggressive behavior etc. If we can own up to our own shortfalls our spouses are more likely to do the same, sometimes even begin to listen when unpopular views are expressed.

I understand there are certain matters of potential life and death that can't wait for mature marital growth, but even still be the reasonable and level headed one, and show a willingness to acknowledge where your spouse is at in his/her thinking and perspecitve when different from your own (hypothetical example: I am consuming news and info to make right decisions and keep us ahead of a disastrous future for ourselves and our children. My spouse simply sees an Internet alt media junkie who's escaping real world problems at home in these fantasy notions of saving the world). Acknowledging goes a long way.

Disagreements among a married couple are NOT the issue.

The issue is whether both partners are mature in handling the disagreements and differences, or at least show a willingness to grow in maturity. If one of the partners can only have emotion based visceral reactions to a disagreement, a counterargument, etc, then that should have already been a red flag earlier on.

But working with each other through disagreements is the key. The fact is we all have the temptation to beat our spouse into submission on certain issues big or small, whether overtly or through manipulation, passive aggressive behavior etc. If we can own up to our own shortfalls our spouses are more likely to do the same, sometimes even begin to listen when unpopular views are expressed.

I understand there are certain matters of potential life and death that can't wait for mature marital growth, but even still be the reasonable and level headed one, and show a willingness to acknowledge where your spouse is at in his/her thinking and perspecitve when different from your own (hypothetical example: I am consuming news and info to make right decisions and keep us ahead of a disastrous future for ourselves and our children. My spouse simply sees an Internet alt media junkie who's escaping real world problems at home in these fantasy notions of world events). Acknowledging goes a long way.