If she injected herself with an unknown experimental substance while pregnant it is safe to go ahead and say the miscarriage can be considered her fault. If a woman injected herself with heroine while pregnant and then had a miscarriage we'd probably assume the heroin killed the baby and not excuse her behavior with the argument that "Hey, there's a 10-15% chance she'd miscarry even if she had done everything perfectly." In both examples, mom has made a high risk, poor choice and the outcome is not surprising.

Treating people with compassion and charity during a hardship does not require subjecting ourselves to insanity.

And I'm not suggesting anyone tell her it's her fault or make her feel worse about what has happened. I'm just saying I'm not buying the "well, 10-15%" story because that has nothing to do with this scenario here which was not a 10-15% situation of a group of general population happily pregnant women who are taking every precaution and then still have an unfortunate outcome.

If she injected herself with an unknown experimental substance while pregnant it is safe to go ahead and say the miscarriage can be considered her fault. If a woman injected herself with heroine while pregnant and then had a miscarriage we'd probably assume the heroin killed the baby and not excuse her behavior with the argument that "Hey, there's a 10-15% chance she'd miscarry even if she had done everything perfectly." In both examples, mom has made a high risk, poor choice and the outcome is not surprising.

Treating people with compassion and charity during a hardship does not require subjecting ourselves to insanity.