If you said a while ago this generation would have massive social problems due to the internet, it wouldn't have been that surprising.

I have thought about social skills for a long time since I have social anxiety, and my theory would be there are two main factors that determine your social ability

A - Emotional openness, ability to connect with others, etc

B - Interest in small talk

If you have A, the only difference your interest in small talk makes is whether you're a healthy introvert or healthy extrovert, either way you're in good shape.

Everyone without A has serious issues however they respond to it in different ways. People who "have social anxiety" find small talk annoying and narcissistic for the same reason healthy introverts do. What they really want is "big talk" and stimulating conversations intellectually or emotionally leading to friendships and relationships that matter. It's just they can't have them. Because they also can't force themselves to be into small talk stuff, they have no social lives at all.

Then you have another group that has the same ROOT cause as the social anxiety people, but are much more into small talk. So they are active enough socially, they are just "emotionally unavailable". They say a lot of shit for the sake of saying stuff. They see talking as something you practice at and get better. I would describe my dad as being this way. There was never a chance of having a convo with him about my feelings or his. He liked to ask questions he didn't care about the answer to, just to fill time. I felt like the words coming out of his mouth didn't change according to who he was talking to. I think he values being normal a lot more than I do.

My theory would be a lot of the woke crowd are in the last group. They are not emotionally healthy people and clearly they have limited to no empathy. What they're possibly really doing is overcompensating and terrified of being an outcast, they care more about this impression of others than actually solving their emotional problems. Someone who's really normal doesn't have to show everyone they're normal, but someone who's not normal but pretending they are, has to prove it to everyone in over the top way, like a guy with a small dick who acts tough. But by doing this they take the most surface heavy banal version of normalcy which is "Does what the MSM authorities say" and following the groupthink. Trump was a great thing for these people because they had small talk material complaining about orange man every day for years. When he left it created a vacuum especially with boring Biden but now they hold onto covid for all they've got.

If you said a while ago this generation would have massive social problems due to the internet, it wouldn't have been that surprising.

I have thought about social skills for a long time since I have social anxiety, and my theory would be there are two main factors that determine your social ability

A - Emotional openness, ability to connect with others, etc

B - Interest in small talk

If you have A, the only difference your interest in small talk makes is whether you're a healthy introvert or healthy extrovert, either way you're in good shape.

Everyone without A has serious issues however they respond to it in different ways. People who "have social anxiety" find small talk annoying and narcissistic for the same reason healthy introverts do. What they really want is "big talk" and stimulating conversations intellectually or emotionally leading to friendships and relationships that matter. It's just they can't have them. Because they also can't force themselves to be into small talk stuff, they have no social lives at all.

Then you have another group that has the same ROOT cause as the social anxiety people, but are much more into small talk. So they are active enough socially, they are just "emotionally unavailable". They say a lot of shit for the sake of saying stuff. They see talking as something you practice at and get better. I would describe my dad as being this way. There was never a chance of having a convo with him about my feelings or his. He liked to ask questions he didn't care about the answer to, just to fill time. I felt like the words coming out of his mouth didn't change according to who he was talking to. I think he values being normal a lot more than I do.

My theory would be a lot of the woke crowd are in the last group. They are not emotionally healthy people and clearly they have limited to no empathy. What they're possibly really doing is overcompensating. Someone who's really normal doesn't have to show everyone they're normal, but someone who's not normal but pretending they are, has to prove it to everyone in over the top way, like a guy with a small dick who acts tough. But by doing this they take the most surface heavy banal version of normalcy which is "Does what the MSM authorities say" and following the groupthink. Trump was a great thing for these people because they had small talk material complaining about orange man every day for years. When he left it created a vacuum especially with boring Biden but now they hold onto covid for all they've got.