After you have given her both some time to speak her mind, and time to formulate some questions of her own, ask her about dreams and hopes for the children. We mommas want to do what's right by them. Also, If you can convince her to at least pray with you about it and not do anything behind your back, you will have won at least half (if not more!) of the battle. There is much good advice here, but DagnyDocket's and test_pattern's stood out to me. Helping her find that red line may take some gentle information dropping, (like the masks sent to the lab info I posted below), but wait until she is both open and receptive.

After you have given her both some time to speak her mind, and time to formulate some questions of her own, ask her about dreams and hopes for the children. We mommas want to do what's right by them. Also, If you can convince her to at least pray with you about it and not do anything behind your back, you will have won at least half (if not more!) of the battle. There is much good advice here, but DagnyDocket's and test_pattern's stood out to me.

After you have given her both some time to speak her mind, and time to formulate some questions of her own, ask her about dreams and hopes for the children. We mommas want to do what's right by them. Also, If you can convince her to at least pray with you about it and not do anything behind your back, you will have won at least half (if not more!) of the battle. There is much good advice here, but DagnyDocket's may be one of the most practical things you can do.