Not sure I'm posting this in the right place, sorry.

I don't post about my personal life, but here goes nothing. Financially things have been tough for a lot of people, so I feel guilty even saying anything. I lost my marriage over the Trump/Q thing. She was too far woke/left to care and as they say, once you are awake, there's no going back. She was just everything that I am not, and not in an opposites attract kind of way. That was about 2 years ago now. It took a lot of healing to get to today.

I never had a lot of money to begin with, but I don't have any debts. Never owned or used a credit card, no money owed on my vehicle, etc. When we were first dating, I almost took a job out of town in the oil and gas industry, but she talked me out of it, convincing me that her and her daughter (6 years old at the time), didn't need my money, they needed me to be around and be a good dad. She owned her own home care and non-medical transport company for individuals with special needs. She decided how much money she was going to spend and on what, and I had no say in it at all, but used the money I was making driving a tow truck for my dad on groceries, or whatever else, but I wasn't spending it on me. There were also several occasions that I'd help with her business. She wouldn't let me near the compliance/filing side of the business, but was more than happy to let me move her individuals to college, back home, take them to school or work, drive them to and from the airport, or hang out with them for awhile until one of her actual employees or the individuals mother or family member got there. I did whatever needed done, which could throw off my schedule for my actual job.

We had a son, things became irreconcilable a year into our marriage, mostly to do with my faith in God, Q, and Trump, and her inability to comprehend Communism. We are divorced and she has full custody, I didn't want to make it a messier divorce than it was already going to be, and to be honest, I felt like such a failure initially that I wasn't sure I deserved him (the devil talking). She said several times "I don't need a man for anything".

Anyway, I have been seeing my son when I'm not working like clockwork. All weekend long unless she had plans with him, and sometimes I will move my schedule around to accommodate her plans. She has been telling me she's going to file for child support, which is what it is. She spends money on ridiculous things that I don't agree with, and I would have no problem reimbursing her for money actually spent on the kids (my son and her daughter), but a lot of her money is spent irresponsibility and unnecessarily. Regardless, I will pay what I'm ordered to pay when that train comes down the line.

She has been saying she can't afford my son's medical bills, she is drowning in debt, and she might lose her business. Today she texted me and said she is closing the business because they changed the laws and you need to qualify for a $10,000 line of credit to stay in business now? I never know when she's telling the truth, or when she's scheming in some way. Ironically, or not ironic at all, I received exactly $10,000 from my grandmother this month after her estate was done being picked through by the lawyers. Maybe she knows I just put it in my bank account somehow, or maybe she's really struggling. Regardless, I'd gladly take full custody of my son and find a way to keep us well fed and happy. But I'll be damned if she's going to suck the life out of me while I'm just trying to heal and provide the best life for my son.

I don't really know what my goal was in posting this here, but words of wisdom, advice, or just prayers would mean a lot right now. I am now living with my brother and helping pay the mortgage and bills while I stay here. I never wanted my son to grow up without a strong united family, but I'm doing the best I can to make sure he knows he is loved and life can be beautiful even if things don't go the way we wanted them to. I don't want to sound inconsiderate, but I've had the thought that I'd sooner spend the 10 grand on my brother's mortgage or into my dad's business than I would giving her a penny I didn't have to give her. After all, my brother or my dad would do anything for me, which is infinitely more than I can say about my ex wife.

I guess all I need is strength and wisdom to see this through and make the right decisions that protect my son and give him the best life possible. I have enough to worry about without making sure the woman that tried to ruin me is financially healthy (she also has a raging Adderall addiction). I feel like I just complained for way too long. Thanks for this community for the positive interactions and information you've all blessed me with in the last few years. God bless.

I don't post about my personal life, but here goes nothing. Financially things have been tough for a lot of people, so I feel guilty even saying anything. I lost my marriage over the Trump/Q thing. She was too far woke/left to care and as they say, once you are awake, there's no going back. She was just everything that I am not, and not in an opposites attract kind of way. That was about 2 years ago now. It took a lot of healing to get to today.

I never had a lot of money to begin with, but I don't have any debts. Never owned or used a credit card, no money owed on my vehicle, etc. When we were first dating, I almost took a job out of town in the oil and gas industry, but she talked me out of it, convincing me that her and her daughter (6 years old at the time), didn't need my money, they needed me to be around and be a good dad. She owned her own home care and non-medical transport company for individuals with special needs. She decided how much money she was going to spend and on what, and I had no say in it at all, but used the money I was making driving a tow truck for my dad on groceries, or whatever else, but I wasn't spending it on me. There were also several occasions that I'd help with her business. She wouldn't let me near the compliance/filing side of the business, but was more than happy to let me move her individuals to college, back home, take them to school or work, or hang out with them for awhile until one of her actual employees or the individuals mother or family member got there. I did whatever needed done, which could throw off my schedule for my actual job.

We had a son, things became irreconcilable a year into our marriage, mostly to do with my faith in God, Q, and Trump, and her inability to comprehend Communism. We are divorced and she has full custody, I didn't want to make it a messier divorce than it was already going to be. She said several times "I don't need a man for anything".

Anyway, I have been seeing my son when I'm not working like clockwork. All weekend long unless she had plans with him, and sometimes I will move my schedule around to accommodate her plans. She has been telling me she's going to file for child support, which is what it is. She spends money on ridiculous things that I don't agree with, and I would have no problem reimbursing her for money actually spent on the kids (my son and her daughter), but a lot of her money is spending irresponsibility and unnecessarily. Regardless, I will pay what I'm ordered to pay when that train comes down the line.

She has been saying she can't afford my son's medical bills, she is drowning in debt, and she might lose her business. Today she texted me and said she is closing the business because they changed the laws and you need to qualify for a $10,000 line of credit to stay in business now? I never know when she's telling the truth, or when she's scheming in some way. Ironically, or not ironic at all, I received exactly $10,000 from my grandmother this month after her estate was done being picked through by the lawyers. Maybe she knows I just put it in my bank account somehow, or maybe she's really struggling. Regardless, I'd gladly take full custody of my son and find a way to keep us well fed and happy. But I'll be damned if she's going to suck the life out of me while I'm just trying to heal and provide the best life for my son.

I don't really know what my goal was in posting this here, but words of wisdom, advice, or just prayers would mean a lot right now. I am now living with my brother and helping pay the mortgage and bills while I stay here. I never wanted my son to grow up without a strong united family, but I'm doing the best I can to make sure he knows he is loved and life can be beautiful even if things don't go the way we wanted them to. I don't want to sound inconsiderate, but I've had the thought that I'd sooner spend the 10 grand on my brother's mortgage or into my dad's business than I would giving her a penny I didn't have to give her. After all, my brother or my dad would do anything for me, which is infinitely more than I can say about my ex wife.

I guess all I need is strength and wisdom to see this through and make the right decisions that protect my son and give him the best life possible. I have enough to worry about without making sure the woman that tried to ruin me is financially healthy (she also has a raging Adderall addiction). I feel like I just complained for way too long. Thanks for this community for the positive interactions and information you've all blessed me with in the last few years. God bless.