my partner and I have been together 10 years, we can't afford to get married. I'd say we have a great relationship, for the most part. I can be very selfish but she is very understanding and we raise each other up in ways we couldn't do alone. We've had no major issues that I can think of in terms of happiness in the relationship. I wish she would look after her health better, but she's never made one demand of me to do much of anything differently. Sometimes I wish she would in order to motivate me, but it is what it is, since you asked...

So the problem with this disorder is, ego. His ego would not " lower" himself to " my insignificant level"

I actually agree, at least I understand the point you are making, and I'm sorry you had that experience. I would like to assume that is not my partners experience nor everyone's experience. I do feel superior at times and it is a problem, but I also have the ability to self reflect, apologise and modify my actions. I can be very humble. It's never been a problem for us, as far as I can tell.

I see allot of the "I" message in your post.

I'm sorry, but I don't know how else I'm supposed to communicate really, I'm giving my personal experience and opinion only, so yes its a lot about "me' and 'I'.

I'm a bit hurt, actually come to think of it, in the way you have addressed me. I don't know your situation or how bad things might have been or what eventually caused you to separate. I'm not going to ask and It's not my business, frankly. neither was it yours to enquire about my spouse. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Since we're sticking noses in each others business, might I suggest it may also have been a 'you' problem.

I mean what are you really suggesting? That my partner deserves better than what I can give her? That I don't deserve love or can't be in a mutually committed relationship because of my 'ego disorder'? How do you think that makes a person feel? Don't you think I have thoughts like this all the time and feel like an unworthy piece of garbage? She always reassures me that everything is fine and it's not like that at all. Maybe she's not as high maintenance as you were, maybe her needs are less? Does that make her less than you? Maybe it's just a miracle and we love each other somehow? Maybe I'm not actually a monster? You assumed so much about someone else's relationship based on your own personal experience, likely without considering any of these possibilities. Who has the lack of empathy again?

my partner and I have been together 10 years, we can't afford to get married. I'd say we have a great relationship, for the most part. I can be very selfish but she is very understanding and we raise each other up in ways we couldn't do alone. We've had no major issues that I can think of in terms of happiness in the relationship. I wish she would look after her health better, but she's never made one demand of me to do much of anything differently. Sometimes I wish she would in order to motivate me, but it is what it is, since you asked...

So the problem with this disorder is, ego. His ego would not " lower" himself to " my insignificant level"

I actually agree, at least I understand the point you are making, and I'm sorry you had that experience. I would like to assume that is not my partners experience nor everyone's experience. I do feel superior at times and it is a problem, but I also have the ability to self reflect, apologise and modify my actions. I can be very humble. It's never been a problem for us, as far as I can tell.

I see allot of the "I" message in your post.

I'm sorry, but I don't know how else I'm supposed communicate really, I'm giving my personal experience and opinion only, so yes its a lot about "me' and 'I'.

I'm a bit hurt, actually come to think of it, in the way you have addressed me. I don't know your situation or how bad things might have been or what eventually caused you to separate. I'm not going to ask and It's not my business, frankly. neither was it yours to enquire about my spouse. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Since we're sticking noses in each others business, might I suggest it may also have been a 'you' problem.

I mean what are you really suggesting? That my partner deserves better than what I can give her? That I don't deserve love or can't be in a mutually committed relationship because of my 'ego disorder'? How do you think that makes a person feel? Don't you think I have thoughts like this all the time and feel like an unworthy piece of garbage? She always reassures me that everything is fine and it's not like that at all. Maybe she's not as high maintenance as you were, maybe her needs are less? Does that make her less than you? Maybe it's just a miracle and we love each other somehow? Maybe I'm not actually a monster? You assumed so much about someone else's relationship based on your own personal experience, likely without considering any of these possibilities. Who has the lack of empathy again?

my partner and I have been together 10 years, we can't afford to get married. I'd say we have a great relationship, for the most part. I can be very selfish but she is very understanding and we raise each other up in ways we couldn't do alone. We've had no major issues that I can think of in terms of happiness in the relationship. I wish she would look after her health better, but she's never made one demand of me to do much of anything differently. Sometimes I wish she would in order to motivate me, but it is what it is, since you asked...

So the problem with this disorder is, ego. His ego would not " lower" himself to " my insignificant level"

I actually agree, at least I understand the point you are making, and I'm sorry you had that experience. I would like to assume that is not my partners experience nor everyone's experience. I do feel superior at times and it is a problem, but I also have the ability to self reflect, apologise and modify my actions. I can be very humble. It's never been a problem for us, as far as I can tell.

I see allot of the "I" message in your post.

I'm sorry, but I don't know how else I'm supposed communicate really, I'm giving my personal experience and opinion only, so yes its a lot about "me' and 'I'.

I'm a bit hurt, actually come to think of it, in the way you have addressed me. I don't know your situation or how bad things might have been or what eventually caused you to separate. I'm not going to ask and It's not my business, frankly. neither was it yours to enquire about my spouse. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Since we're sticking noses in each others business, might I suggest it may also have been a 'you' problem.

I mean what are you really suggesting? That my partner deserves better than what I can give her? That I don't deserve love or can't be in a mutually committed relationship because of my 'ego disorder'? How do you think that makes a person feel? Don't you think I have thoughts like this all the time and feel like an unworthy piece of garbage? She always reassures me that everything is fine and it's not like that at all. Maybe she's not as high maintenance as you were, maybe her needs are less? Does that make her less than you? Maybe it's just a miracle and we love each other somehow? Maybe I'm not actually a monster? You assumed so much about someone else's relationship based on your own personal experience, likely without considering any of these possibilities.

my partner and I have been together 10 years, we can't afford to get married. I'd say we have a great relationship, for the most part. I can be very selfish but she is very understanding and we raise each other up in ways we couldn't do alone. We've had no major issues that I can think of in terms of happiness in the relationship. I wish she would look after he health better, but she's never made one demand of me to do much of anything differently. Sometimes I wish she would in order to motivate me, but it is what it is, since you asked...

So the problem with this disorder is, ego. His ego would not " lower" himself to " my insignificant level"

I actually agree, at least I understand the point you are making, and I'm sorry you had that experience. I would like to assume that is not my partners experience nor everyone's experience. I do feel superior at times and it is a problem, but I also have the ability to self reflect, apologise and modify my actions. I can be very humble. It's never been a problem for us, as far as I can tell.

I see allot of the "I" message in your post.

I'm sorry, but I don't know how else I'm supposed communicate really, I'm giving my personal experience and opinion only, so yes its a lot about "me' and 'I'.

I'm a bit hurt, actually come to think of it, in the way you have addressed me. I don't know your situation or how bad things might have been or what eventually caused you to separate. I'm not going to ask and It's not my business, frankly. neither was it yours to enquire about my spouse. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Since we're sticking noses in each others business, might I suggest it may also have been a 'you' problem.

I mean what are you really suggesting? That my partner deserves better than what I can give her? That I don't deserve love or can't be in a mutually committed relationship because of my 'ego disorder'? How do you think that makes a person feel? Don't you think I have thoughts like this all the time and feel like an unworthy piece of garbage? She always reassures me that everything is fine and it's not like that at all. Maybe she's not as high maintenance as you were, maybe her needs are less? Does that make her less than you? Maybe it's just a miracle and we love each other somehow? Maybe I'm not actually a monster? You assumed so much about someone else's relationship based on your own personal experience, likely without considering any of these possibilities.

my partner and I have been together 10 years, we can't afford to get married. I'd say we have a great relationship, for the most part. I can be very selfish but she is very understanding and we raise each other up in ways we couldn't do alone. We've had no major issues that I can think of in terms of happiness in the relationship. I wish she would look after he health better, but she's never made one demand of me to do much of anything differently. Sometimes I wish she would in order to motivate me, but it is what it is, since you asked...

So the problem with this disorder is, ego. His ego would not " lower" himself to " my insignificant level"

I actually agree, at least I understand the point you are making, and I'm sorry you had that experience. I would like to assume that is not my partners experience nor everyone's experience. I do feel superior at times and it is a problem, but I also have the ability to self reflect, apologise and modify my actions. I can be very humble. It's never been a problem for us, as far as I can tell.

I see allot of the "I" message in your post.

I'm sorry, but I don't know how else I'm supposed communicate really, I'm giving my personal experience and opinion only, so yes its a lot about "me' and 'I'.

I'm a bit hurt, actually come to think of it, in the way you have addressed me. I don't know your situation or how bad things might have been or what eventually caused you to separate. I'm not going to ask and It's not my business, frankly. neither was it yours to enquire about my spouse. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Since we're sticking noses in each others business, might I suggest it may also have been a 'you' problem.

my partner and I have been together 10 years, we can't afford to get married. I'd say we have a great relationship, for the most part. I can be very selfish but she is very understanding and we raise each other up in ways we couldn't do alone. We've had no major issues that I can think of in terms of happiness in the relationship. I wish she would look after he health better, but she's never made one demand of me to do much of anything differently. Sometimes I wish she would in order to motivate me, but it is what it is, since you asked...

So the problem with this disorder is, ego. His ego would not " lower" himself to " my insignificant level"

I actually agree, and I'm sorry you had that experience. I would like to assume that is not my partners experience nor everyone's experience. I do feel superior at times and it is a problem, but I also have the ability to self reflect, apologise and modify my actions. I can be very humble. It's never been a problem for us, as far as I can tell.

I see allot of the "I" message in your post.

I'm sorry, but I don't know how else I'm supposed communicate really, I'm giving my personal experience and opinion only, so yes its a lot about "me' and 'I'.

I'm a bit hurt, actually come to think of it, in the way you have addressed me. I don't know your situation or how bad things might have been or what eventually caused you to separate. I'm not going to ask and It's not my business, frankly. neither was it yours to enquire about my spouse. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you. Since we're sticking noses in each others business, might I suggest it may also have been a 'you' problem.