Just a personal note to mah frens at Gen Chat.
Recently, I got into a squabble and scrap-up with a fellow pede. As a result, I became the fortunate recipient of a 2-day ban.
Well, I've been on GAW for a few years, and never had a ban. So I was outraged at first. Ban? Me????
I immediately wrote up a missive protesting the horrific injustice, and sent that off to a few mod-type frens.
But it didn't take long for me to get over my outrage and realize that I was over-reacting and that a ban was a great opportunity to take some time off from GAW. After a nice respite, I came back after about 8 days, and read through a few DM replies I got to my indignant protestations, drafted and sent 8 days earlier.
One reply in particular from the mod team cut through my bullshit with a vengeance. It was hard to swallow, but by this time, the time away had done its work, and I was ready to take my lumps. In fact, I welcomed them.
All in all, the experience and the feedback I got helped me to see that I've been approaching GAW with a number of sub-optimal attitudes, attitudes I wasn't aware of, attitudes which, once I became aware of them, were attitudes I wanted to change. These included an over-attachment to my own views on things, and other attitudes that weren't really helping me (or others) in the long run.
If it wasn't for that ban, who knows how long I would have remained oblivious to those attitudes?
The ban was a long time coming, not because my behavior has been particularly egregious - it hasn't - but because my attitudes and approach have been flawed in a way that I was being oblivious to, to my detriment. Ego-connected attitudes.
Well, i just wanted to report that I feel like the ban, the feedback and the support (yes, support, even though it stung a little) that I got through that process have been like a tonic, a medicine. I think it's helped me to improve my approach. More importantly perhaps, it has inspired me to aspire to be better in my approach.
It may be one of the biggest benefits of being on GAW that I'll take away, at the end of the day. (Although never say never.)
And, I just wanted to report that. Sometimes, humble pie doesn't taste good, but its medicinal value should never be underestimated. We have an excellent mod team, our collective flaws and all.
Thank you GAW.
wwg1wga
Just a personal note to mah frens at Gen Chat.
Recently, I got into a squabble and scrap-up with a fellow pede. As a result, I became the fortunate recipient of a 2-day ban.
Well, I've been on GAW for a few years, and never had a ban. So I was outraged at first. Ban? Me????
I immediately wrote up a missive protesting the horrific injustice, and sent that off to a few mod-type frens.
But it didn't take long for me to get over my outrage and realize that I was over-reacting and that a ban was a great opportunity to take some time off from GAW. After a nice respite, I came back after about 8 days, and read through a few DM replies I got to my indignant protestations, drafted and sent 8 days earlier.
One reply in particular from the mod team cut through my bullshit with a vengeance. It was hard to swallow, but by this time, the time away had done its work, and I was ready to take my lumps. In fact, I welcomed them.
All in all, the experience and the feedback I got helped me to see that I've been approaching GAW with a number of sub-optimal attitudes, attitudes I wasn't aware of, attitudes which, once I became aware of them, were attitudes I wanted to change. These included an over-attachment to my own views on things, and other attitudes that weren't really helping me (or others) in the long run.
If it wasn't for that ban, who knows how long I would have remained oblivious to those attitudes?
The ban was a long time coming, not because my behavior has been particularly egregious - it hasn't - but because my attitudes and approach have been flawed in a way that I was being oblivious to, to my detriment. Ego-connected attitudes.
Well, i just wanted to report that I feel like the ban, the feedback and the support (yes, support, even though it stung a little) I got through that process have been like a tonic, a medicine. I think it's helped me to improve my approach. More importantly perhaps, it has inspired me to aspire to be better in my approach.
It may be one of the biggest benefits of being on GAW that I'll take away, at the end of the day. (Although never say never.)
And, I just wanted to report that. Sometimes, humble pie doesn't taste good, but its medicinal value should never be underestimated. We have an excellent mod team, our collective flaws and all.
Thank you GAW.
wwg1wga