You might not like what I have to say, however I was in a similar relationship ( 25+ years ).

You have to love yourself first and foremost.

You can not help anyone that isn't helping themselves. Blaming past traumas for current behaviour is gaslighting and nothing but : sorry to tell you. It's a way to not take accountability for one's actions. Everybody knows what they are doing.

I guarantee you - if you're being honest with yourself - this is repeated behaviour.

She only had regret after you found out. You have no way to prove ( and neither does she ) that she felt anything until you found out.

She had no intentions to talk to you, at all, once she got pregnant and then made those decisions after that. She did not think about you, or your feelings, or what you previously talked about. This all didn't happen in one day either ; don't forget that.

She thought of herself first, and only. She needs help to get over her trauma or this way of being will continue.

People show you who they are : believe them. And I'll say it again ; everybody knows what they are doing

You might not like what I have to say, however I was in a similar relationship ( 25+ years ).

You have to love yourself first and foremost.

You can not help anyone that isn't helping themselves. Blaming past traumas for current behaviour is gaslighting and nothing but : sorry to tell you. It's a way to not take accountability for one's actions. Everybody knows what they are doing.

I guarantee you - if you're being honest with yourself - this is repeated behaviour.

She only had regret after you found out. You have no way to prove ( and neither does she ) that she felt anything until you found out.

She had no intentions to talk to you, at all, once she got pregnant and then made those decisions after that. She did not think about you, or your feelings, or what you previously talked about. This all didn't happen in one day either ; don't forget that.

She thought of herself first, and only. She needs help to get over her trauma or this way of being will continue.

People show you who they are : believe them.

You might not like what I have to say, however I was in a similar relationship ( 25+ years ).

You have to love yourself first and foremost.

You can not help anyone that isn't helping themselves. Blaming past traumas for current behaviour is gaslighting and nothing but : sorry to tell you. It's a way to not take accountability for one's actions. Everybody knows what they are doing.

I guarantee you - if you're being honest with yourself - this is repeated behaviour.

She only had regret after you found out. You have no way to prove ( and neither does she ) that she felt anything until you found out.

She had no intentions to talk to you, at all, once she got pregnant and then made those decisions after that. She did not think about you, or your feelings, or what you previously talked about. This all didn't happen in one day either ; don't forget that.

She thought of herself first, and only. She needs help to get over her trauma or this way of being will continue.

People show you who they are : believe them.

You might not like what I have to say, however I was in a similar relationship ( 25+ years ).

You have to love yourself first and foremost.

You can not help anyone that isn't helping themselves. Blaming past traumas for current behaviour is gaslighting and nothing but : sorry to tell you. I guarantee you - if you're being honest with yourself - this is repeated behaviour.

She only had regret after you found out. You have no way to prove ( and neither does she ) that she felt anything until you found out.

She had no intentions to talk to you, at all, once she got pregnant and then made those decisions after that. She did not think about you, or your feelings, or what you previously talked about. This all didn't happen in one day either ; don't forget that.

She thought of herself first, and only. She needs help to get over her trauma or this way of being will continue.

People show you who they are : believe them.

You might not like what I have to say, however I was in a similar relationship ( 25+ years ).

You have to love yourself first and foremost.

You can not help anyone that isn't helping themselves. Relying on blaming past traumas for current behaviour is gaslighting : sorry to tell you.

She only had regret after you found out. You have no way to prove ( and neither does she ) that she felt anything until you found out.

She had no intentions to talk to you, at all, once she got pregnant and then made those decisions after that. She did not think about you, or your feelings, or what you previously talked about. This all didn't happen in one day either ; don't forget that.

She thought of herself first, and only. People show you who they are : believe them.