Dear Fren,

I too have been in a similar but not identical situation. My last divorce involved my ex taking the kids to the outermost limits of the agreement whilst I worked 3 jobs just to keep up with alimony and child support for several years.

All I could do was work, write checks, and do my best to make 2 hour each way rush hour drives to visit my kids.

Eventually, I was able to overcome debt and obligations. Now that situation was lessened by having a new woman, now wife of 17 years, in my life who helped vastly.

From what I've learned through lawyers, guns, and money is that don't retreat. If she asked for the divorce, put the burden on her. Don't move out of this house, otherwise, you will not see your child as it needs to be seen.

Stand your ground. Become aggressive in a non-violent way. Now is the time to man up. Make it her fault. You've taken the high ground.

And pray to God every night for guidance and direction.

PS - Is your wife a lib or turning more lib by any chance?

Dear Fren,

I too have been in a similar but not identical situation. My last divorce involved my ex taking the kids to the outermost limits of the agreement whilst I worked 3 jobs just to keep up with alimony and child support for several years.

All I could do was work, write checks, and do my best to make 2 hour each way rush hour drives to visit my kids.

Eventually, I was able to overcome debt and obligations. Now that situation was lessened by having a new woman, now wife of 17 years, in my life who hekped vastly.

From what I've learned through lawyers, guns, and money is that don't retreat. If she asked for the divorce, put the burden on her. Don't move out of this house, otherwise, you will not see your child as it needs to be seen.

Stand your ground. Become aggressive in a non-violent way. Now is the time to man up. Make it her fault. You've taken the high ground.

And pray to God every night for guidance and direction.