I'm gnna start this with, I'm so sorry. Because it's one of the shittiest things that a man can go through.

Look up "Grey rock" on reddit. I know reddit sucks but there's whole communities of men who have a spouse who one day decided they could do better. Women can be so dumb. Husbands are usually concerned/focused on ensuring roof/food/transportation/safety for their family and sometimes neglect to remind their wives how much they love them and how beautiful they are because we are too busy trying to make sure the shower water stays hot and in our heads that should scream to them how much we love them. Unless they had a really good upbringing and were taught to see that our "love language" is acts of service, they will literally throw all of the shared history/stable family out of the window for the first guy who tells them all the things they want to hear the same way we did before the responsibilities of being a father/husband came along. I'm not making excuses for men and think we should do our very best to make our wives feel valued and loved in their "love language". I'm just pointing out how easy it is to prey on married women who are not hearing those same things at home. Now imagine having the added pressure of a special needs child on you along with ensuring the your family gets to eat and enjoy life and that's where I think you are. I am 99% sure this is what's happening to you. You will never get an answer from her while she is in the "limerace" stage. I've seen it first hand, from someone I would have bet my life on would never do it. It's my most painful lesson to date and I don't wish it on anyone. Your priority is your daughter and you. If you lose your mental health, then you lose. I'm not in any condition to provide you step by steps but since you are on GAW then you must be good at trying to read between the lines and discern whats going on.

I implore you to read what I mentioned above and start to work on an exit plan. Think about it this way, if there isn't someone else, then she is doing this with a clear mind and you need to begin planning on being a better you sooner then later so when you are finished grieving the loss of someone you thought you knew, you can eventually work your way back into the game and find a better significant other. I wouldn't look anywhere else but church because modern society has warped a lot of viewpoints on families and roles and that's the last bastion of the proven model we all know works. On the other hand if there is someone else(once again, there probably is) then you will have already worked towards creating that separation you will need to process all of the memories you have that are now completely fucked because what you thought was happening at the time is tainted forever.

Find a way to get the truth without her knowledge, play it cool and do not let her know you are onto her or it becomes 10x difficult to uncover the truth. if it's happening then no amount of love letters, washing the dishes or buying gifts will break the affair fog. You must find out yourself. In regards to finances, remember, it's your daughter then your mental health as priority number one. I hate saying this to anybody but this is how you shape the rest of your life. Be a man! Money can be made in numerous ways. Finding a place to move to may take some time but you will most likely be doing it after the divorce anyway so start now.

It's your life, it's your daughters role-model and example that she will base her life on. Do not fuck it up.

I'm gnna start this with, I'm so sorry. Because it's one of the shittiest things that a man can go through.

Look up "Grey rock" on reddit. I know reddit sucks but there's whole communities of men who have a spouse who one day decided they could do better. Women can be so dumb. Husbands are usually concerned/focused on ensuring roof/food/transportation/safety for their family and sometimes neglect to remind their wives how much they love them and how beautiful they are because we are too busy trying to make sure the shower water stays hot and in our heads that should scream to them how much we love them. Unless they had a really good upbringing and were taught to see that our "love language" is acts of service, they will literally throw all of the shared history/stable family out of the window for the first guy who tells them all the things they want to hear the same way we did before the responsibilities of being a father/husband came along. I'm not making excuses for men and think we should do our very best to make our wives feel valued and loved in their "love language". I'm just pointing out how easy it is to prey on married women who are not hearing those same things at home. Now imagine having the added pressure of a special needs child on you along with ensuring the your family gets to eat and enjoy life and that's where I think you are. I am 99% sure this is what's happening to you. You will never get an answer from her while she is in the "limerace" stage. I've seen it first hand, from someone I would have bet my life on would never do it. It's my most painful lesson to date and I don't wish it on anyone. Your priority is your daughter and you. If you lose your mental health, then you lose. I'm not in any condition to provide you step by steps but since you are on GAW then you must be good at trying to read between the lines and discern whats going on.

I implore you to read what I mentioned above and start to work on an exit plan. Think about it this way, if there isn't someone else, then she is doing this with a clear mind and you need to begin planning on being a better you sooner then later so when you are finished grieving the loss of someone you thought you knew, you can eventually work your way back into the game and find a better significant other. I wouldn't look anywhere else but church because modern society has warped a lot of viewpoints on families and roles and that's the last bastion of the proven model we all know works. On the other hand if there is someone else(once again, there probably is) then you will have already worked towards creating that separation you will need to process all of the memories you have that are now completely fucked because what you thought was happening at the time is tainted forever.

Find a way to get the truth without her knowledge, play it cool and do not let her know you are onto her or it becomes 10x difficult to uncover the truth. if it's happening then no amount of love letters, washing the dishes or buying gifts will break the affair fog. You must find out yourself. In regards to finances, remember, it's your daughter then your mental health as priority number one. I hate saying this to anybody but this is how you shape the rest of your life. Be a man! Money can be made in numerous ways. Finding a place to move to may take some time but you will most likely be doing it after the divorce anyway so start now.

It's your life, it's your daughter role-model and example. Do not fuck it up.

I'm gnna start this with, I'm so sorry. Because it's one of the shittiest things that a man can go through.

Look up "Grey rock" on reddit. I know reddit sucks but there's whole communities of men who have a spouse who one day decided they could do better. Women can be so dumb. Husbands are usually concerned/focused on ensuring roof/food/transportation/safety for their family and sometimes neglect to remind their wives how much they love them and how beautiful they are because we are too busy trying to make sure the shower water stays hot and in our heads that should scream to them how much we love them. Unless they had a really good upbringing and were taught them to see that our "love language" is acts of service, they will literally throw all of the shared history/stable family out of the window for the first guy who tells them all things they want to hear the same way we did before the responsibilities of being a father/husband came along. I'm not making excuses for men and think we should do our very best to make our wives feel valued and loved in their "love language". I'm just pointing out how easy it is to prey on married women who are not hearing those same things at home. Now imagine having the added pressure of a special needs child on you along with ensuring the your family gets to eat and enjoy life and that's where I think you are. I am 99% sure this is what's happening to you. You will never get an answer from here while she is in the "limerace"stage. I've seen it first hand, from someone I would have bet my life on would never do it. It's my most painful lesson to date and I don't wish it on anyone. Your priority is your daughter and you. If you lose your mental health, then you lose. I'm not in any condition to provide you step by steps but since you are on GAW then you muse be good at trying to read between the lines and discern whats going on.

I implore you to read what I mentioned above and start to work on an exit plan. Think about it this way, if there isn't someone else, then she is doing this with a clear mind and you need to begin planning on being a better you sooner then later when you are finished grieving the loss of someone you thought you knew, so you can eventually work your way back into the game and find a better significant other. I wouldn't look anywhere else but church because modern society has warped a lot of viewpoints on families and roles and that's the last bastion of the proven model we all know works. On the other hand if there is someone else(once again, there probably is) then you will have already worked towards creating that separation you will need to process all of the memories you have that are now completely fucked because what you thought was happening at the time is tainted forever.

Find a way to get the truth without her knowledge, play it cool and do not let her know you are onto her or it becomes 10x difficult to uncover the truth. if it's happening then no amount of love letters, washing the dishes or buying gifts will break the affair fog. You must find out yourself. In regards to finances, remember, it's your daughter then your mental health as priority number one. I hate saying this to anybody but this is how you shape the rest of your life. Be a man! Money can be made in numerous ways. Finding a place to move to may take some time but you will most likely be doing it after the divorce anyway so start now.

It's your life, it's your daughter role-model and example. Do not fuck it up.