Sounds like you are in the married friendzone. And she threatened divorce b/c she is unhaaaapy.

There are 4 ways to get out of it, 2-4 apply since you are already married

1 You were her friend, but she always liked you. She was waiting for you to ask her out.

2 You were her friend, and you underwent some change to become a man while you didn’t see her for a while. When you meet her again you impress her.

3 You were her friend, but you are developing into a man. Then one day her friend or some other random act of God makes her reconsider you and her eyes are proverbially opened.

4 You were her friend, and she doesn’t know a certain side of you. An inadvertent crisis or significant display of social dominance or leadership shows her a side of you that she never saw before. She reconsiders you now as more attractive because of this masculine display.

Some combination of 2-4 need to happen to improve this situation.

And also stop crying, especially in front of women. I understand you had some deaths in the family, and grieving takes time. But you can grieve while maintaining control of the situation. Crying makes those underneath you question your leadership. If you need to, do it alone. Men don't get squat for free in this world, even from churches. You have to accept reality on reality's terms. Anything else is just lying to yourself.

Are you Christian? If so, then do not file for divorce. Yes I know our evil government incentivizes divorce. Yes they profit off every divorce, yes there is a whole industry around it. Yes they make it most profitable to parent children with anyone who ISN'T the biological father.

But if you are Christian, then follow 1 Cor 7:12.

Also, if you are christian, wash here with the water of the word. Eph 5:25-33.

Even if your wife acts like an enemy in your own house, you are still to do as Christ has called you to, and don't be harsh with her (Col 3:17).

More: Men heap more sin and suffering on themselves by not confronting bad behavior from their wives. They think they can out-work their suffering (e.g. chore play, child care, more responsibilities, etc. So by loving her, make sure you do not incentivize bad behavior. You lead, invite her to follow in YOUR frame. In doing so, you will also be setting a good example to your daughter as well

I'll be praying.

One tip I would give, is try to learn more about cars, and do your own work. I know that takes time though. It opens up a whole host of cheaper transportation options.

Sounds like you are in the married friendzone. And she threatened divorce b/c she is unhaaaapy.

There are 4 ways to get out of it, 2-4 apply since you are already married

1 You were her friend, but she always liked you. She was waiting for you to ask her out. 2 You were her friend, and you underwent some change to become a man while you didn’t see her for a while. When you meet her again you impress her. 3 You were her friend, but you are developing into a man. Then one day her friend or some other random act of God makes her reconsider you and her eyes are proverbially opened. 4 You were her friend, and she doesn’t know a certain side of you. An inadvertent crisis or significant display of social dominance or leadership shows her a side of you that she never saw before. She reconsiders you now as more attractive because of this masculine display.

Some combination of 2-4 need to happen to improve this situation.

And also stop crying, especially in front of women. I understand you had some deaths in the family, and grieving takes time. But you can grieve while maintaining control of the situation. Crying makes those underneath you question your leadership. If you need to, do it alone. Men don't get squat for free in this world, even from churches. You have to accept reality on reality's terms. Anything else is just lying to yourself.

Are you Christian? If so, then do not file for divorce. Yes I know our evil government incentivizes divorce. Yes they profit off every divorce, yes there is a whole industry around it. Yes they make it most profitable to parent children with anyone who ISN'T the biological father. But if you are Christian, then follow 1 Cor 7:12. Also, if you are christian, wash here with the water of the word. Eph 5:25-33. Even if your wife acts like an enemy in your own, you are still to do as Christ has called you to, and don't be harsh with her.

More: Men heap more sin and suffering on themselves by not confronting bad behavior from their wives. They think they can out-work their suffering (e.g. chore play, child care, more responsibilities, etc. So by loving her, make sure you do not incentivize bad behavior. You lead, invite her to follow in YOUR frame. In doing so, you will also be setting a good example to your daughter as well

I'll be praying.

One tip I would give, is try to learn more about cars, and do your own work. I know that takes time though. It opens up a whole host of cheaper transportation options.