No offence, but don't do any of this. Your wife has made it clear she is no longer in love with you - anything you do now to try and sway her back to you will only drive the wedge further. Trust me, I've seen this a thousand times.

I have a strong feeling your wife got with you in order to help herself get over her EX. Without knowing how long they were together, the death of a former spouse can very well trigger a depression in people - even if they've been done for years.

Your wife's feelings for you were actually a misconception in her mind that she had real feelings for you, whereas in reality, it was a way to mask her grieving the loss of her former relationship.

Let me ask you some questions :

Did your wife grow up without a father? What's her mother's personality like? Her phone, is it pass worded?

Possible you married a narcissist. A narc will do exactly this when you stop feeding their ego. Most of the time this comes from straight up boredom. See, regular life is boring for a toxic person - they need constant adoration and believe infatuation is actually what love is.

Over the course of time, infatuation becomes regular love. To a toxic person, when this happens, they feel you have betrayed them or you stopped loving them. They then have to turn it around so it's your fault

You don't just 'fall out of love' with someone unless they are horribly abusing to you - and even THAT doesn't make some people stop loving someone.

The fact she has all these pics of her and her ex could simply mean she never got over him and now that he's gone, she's realized there will never be a reconciliation with him.

Very sorry to tell you this, but it very much seems like your were a emotional filler for your wife. She was able to keep up appearances simply because the idea that her and her EX might get back together ; that hope would keep her going and provide a 'happiness' that others believe she feels for her current life - it's for the life she wants.

Another piece of advice to anyone here who wants it. Do NOT ever, ever get involved with someone who is still attached to their EX ; especially if they were / are married. They have a history you only have one version of - the version the person you're seeing wants you to believe. You will A L W A Y S get hurt if you get involved with someone fresh from a long term relationship or someone who is grieving the death of a former spouse.

sorry for the book, I've lived this ( somewhat ) and see it with many people I know.

Your best advice my friend, is to leave. You can not save anything at this point except your own sanity. This is a major reason why so many men kill themselves - they stay stuck trying to figure it out. You'll never figure it out, friend. You can't control what anyone else does, or how people feel about you. Remember though : the way people feel about you and treat you is actually self reflection - hard not to , but don't take it personal. It's THEIR mental / emotional problem to figure out, not yours.

Be good and true to yourself and leave. Fuck the house, the car, all the shit you own ; get yourself away or this WILL go very, very bad for you emotionally and mentally and you'll never be able to get out of it.

You don't want to be one of the 85% friend.

No offence, but don't do any of this. Your wife has made it clear she is no longer in love with you - anything you do now to try and sway her back to you will only drive the wedge further. Trust me, I've seen this a thousand times.

I have a strong feeling your wife got with you in order to help herself get over her EX. Without knowing how long they were together, the death of a former spouse can very well trigger a depression in people - even if they've been done for years.

Your wife's feelings for you were actually a misconception in her mind that she had real feelings for you, whereas in reality, it was a way to grieve the loss of her former relationship.

Let me ask you some questions :

Did your wife grow up without a father? What's her mother's personality like? Her phone, is it pass worded?

Possible you married a narcissist. A narc will do exactly this when you stop feeding their ego. Most of the time this comes from straight up boredom. See, regular life is boring for a toxic person - they need constant adoration and believe infatuation is actually what love is.

Over the course of time, infatuation becomes regular love. To a toxic person, when this happens, they feel you have betrayed them or you stopped loving them. They then have to turn it around so it's your fault

You don't just 'fall out of love' with someone unless they are horribly abusing to you - and even THAT doesn't make some people stop loving someone.

The fact she has all these pics of her and her ex could simply mean she never got over him and now that he's gone, she's realized there will never be a reconciliation with him.

Very sorry to tell you this, but it very much seems like your were a emotional filler for your wife. She was able to keep up appearances simply because the idea that her and her EX might get back together ; that hope would keep her going and provide a 'happiness' that others believe she feels for her current life - it's for the life she wants.

Another piece of advice to anyone here who wants it. Do NOT ever, ever get involved with someone who is still attached to their EX ; especially if they were / are married. They have a history you only have one version of - the version the person you're seeing wants you to believe. You will A L W A Y S get hurt if you get involved with someone fresh from a long term relationship or someone who is grieving the death of a former spouse.

sorry for the book, I've lived this ( somewhat ) and see it with many people I know.

Your best advice my friend, is to leave. You can not save anything at this point except your own sanity. This is a major reason why so many men kill themselves - they stay stuck trying to figure it out. You'll never figure it out, friend. You can't control what anyone else does, or how people feel about you. Remember though : the way people feel about you and treat you is actually self reflection - hard not to , but don't take it personal. It's THEIR mental / emotional problem to figure out, not yours.

Be good and true to yourself and leave. Fuck the house, the car, all the shit you own ; get yourself away or this WILL go very, very bad for you emotionally and mentally and you'll never be able to get out of it.

You don't want to be one of the 85% friend.

No offence, but don't do any of this. Your wife has made it clear she is no longer in love with you - anything you do now to try and sway her back to you will only drive the wedge further. Trust me, I've seen this a thousand times.

I have a strong feeling your wife got with you in order to help herself get over her EX. Without knowing how long they were together, the death of a former spouse can very well trigger a depression in people - even if they've been done for years.

Your wife's feelings for you were actually a misconception in her mind that she had real feelings for you, whereas in reality, it was a way to grieve the loss of her former relationship.

Let me ask you some questions :

Did your wife grow up without a father? What's her mother's personality like? Her phone, is it pass worded?

Sounds to me like you married a narcissist. They need constant supply ( someone feeding their ego and regulating their emotions for them ). A narc will do exactly this when you stop feeding their ego. Most of the time this comes from straight up boredom. See, regular life is boring for a toxic person - they need constant adoration and believe infatuation is actually what love is.

Over the course of time, infatuation becomes regular love. To a toxic person, when this happens, they feel you have betrayed them or you stopped loving them. They then have to turn it around so it's your fault

The fact she has all these pics of her and her ex could simply mean she never got over him and now that he's gone, she's realized there will never be a reconciliation with him.

Very sorry to tell you this, but it very much seems like your were a emotional filler for your wife. She was able to keep up appearances simply because the idea that her and her EX might get back together ; that hope would keep her going and provide a 'happiness' that others believe she feels for her current life - it's for the life she wants.

Another piece of advice to anyone here who wants it. Do NOT ever, ever get involved with someone who is still attached to their EX ; especially if they were / are married. They have a history you only have one version of - the version the person you're seeing wants you to believe. You will A L W A Y S get hurt if you get involved with someone fresh from a long term relationship or someone who is grieving the death of a former spouse.

sorry for the book, I've lived this ( somewhat ) and see it with many people I know.

Your best advice my friend, is to leave. You can not save anything at this point except your own sanity. This is a major reason why so many men kill themselves - they stay stuck trying to figure it out. You'll never figure it out, friend. Be good and true to yourself and leave. Fuck the house, the car, all the shit you own ; get yourself away or this WILL go very, very bad for you emotionally and mentally.

You don't want to be one of the 85% friend.