So here’s a thought. Maybe it’s stupid, but it’s just trying to think outside the box.

This is not advice for op, actually it’s not even advice, just a potential thought for anyone who is considering getting divorced who has money to do this, especially if children are involved, without involving the state as the third wheel of your marriage, but leaving God as the third party and mediator.

Buy 20 acres. Build her a home on 1/8-1 acre that she doesn’t have title to. Send her over there. She manages it. Provide for your childrens’ mother, but don’t “divorce” because that’s state-legalized nonsense BS. If there are issues, meet up and get them resolved. Conjugal visits are an option if there isn’t too much permanent animosity involved. Children can easily see either parent at whatever time with minimal issue. Remain the provider.

Divorce is grotesque, outside of a few specific biblically supported conditions for doing so, and we will be judged as we judge. This may not be a good solution, but neither is divorce - neither also is going insane. We’ve broken our societies by accepting divorce as commonplace, and must find a way to put it away again.

It may also be good to restore the domestic social circles women used to have. Older women (maybe not now, but generally) can be good guides for younger women on how to deal with different issues in more positive and effective ways than they might otherwise do - like an informal “Big Brother” club.

Feel free to knock this idea if it’s impractical, just seems like potentially decent ways to restore fractured families and communities.

Prayer and repentance to God will go a long way, too. Ask for mediation. He can provide it.

So here’s a thought. Maybe it’s stupid, but it’s just trying to think outside the box.

This is not advice for op, actually it’s not even advice, just a potential thought for anyone who is considering getting divorced who has money to do this, especially if children are involved, without involving the state as the third wheel of your marriage, but leaving God as the third party and mediator.

Buy 20 acres. Build her a home on 1/8-1 acre that she doesn’t have title to. Send her over there. She manages it. Provide for your childrens’ mother, but don’t “divorce” because that’s state-legalized nonsense BS. If there are issues, meet up and get them resolved. Conjugal visits are an option if there isn’t too much permanent animosity involved. Children can easily see either parent at whatever time with minimal issue. Remain the provider.

Divorce is grotesque, outside of a few specific biblically supported conditions for doing so, and we will be judged as we judge. This may not be a good solution, but neither is divorce - neither also is going insane. We’ve broken our societies by accepting divorce as commonplace, and must find a way to put it away again.

It may also be good to restore the domestic social circles women used to have. Older women (maybe not now, but generally) can be good guides for younger women on how to deal with different issues in more positive and effective ways than they might otherwise do - like an informal “Big Brother” club.

Feel free to knock this idea if it’s impractical, just seems like potentially decent ways to restore fractured families and communities.

So here’s a thought. Maybe it’s stupid, but it’s just trying to think outside the box.

This is not advice for op, actually it’s not even advice, just a potential thought for anyone who is considering getting divorced who has money to do this, especially if children are involved, without involving the state as the third wheel of your marriage, but leaving God as the third party and mediator.

Buy 20 acres. Build her a home on 1/8-1 acre that she doesn’t have title to. Send her over there. She manages it. Provide for your childrens’ mother, but don’t “divorce” because that’s state-legalized nonsense BS. If there are issues, meet up and get them resolved. Conjugal visits are an option if there isn’t too much permanent animosity involved. Children can easily see either parent at whatever time with minimal issue. Remain the provider.

Divorce is grotesque, outside of a few specific biblically supported conditions for doing so, and we will be judged as we judge. This may not be a good solution, but neither is divorce - neither also is going insane. We’ve broken our societies by accepting divorce as commonplace, and must find a way to put it away again.

It may also be good to restore the domestic social circles women used to have. Older women (maybe not now, but generally) can be good guides for younger women on how to deal with different issues in more positive and effective ways than they might otherwise do.

So here’s a thought. Maybe it’s stupid, but it’s just trying to think outside the box.

This is not advice for op, actually it’s not even advice, just a potential thought for anyone who is considering getting divorced who has money to do this, especially if children are involved, without involving the state as the third wheel of your marriage, but leaving God as the third party and mediator.

Buy 20 acres. Build her a home on 1/8-1 acre that she doesn’t have title to. Send her over there. She manages it. Provide for your childrens’ mother, but don’t “divorce” because that’s state-legalized nonsense BS. If there are issues, meet up and get them resolved. Conjugal visits are an option if there isn’t too much permanent animosity involved. Children can easily see either parent at whatever time with minimal issue. Remain the provider.

Divorce is grotesque, outside of a few specific biblically supported conditions for doing so, and we will be judged as we judge. This may not be a good solution, but neither is divorce - neither also is going insane. We’ve broken our societies by accepting divorce as commonplace, and must find a way to put it away again.