Narcs are the kind of people who if you spend too much time around them, they can actually give the OTHERS around them a mental problem... and that's sayin somethin.
My MIL is a narcissist. She had heart surgery and my wife felt obligated to take care of her. She thought her mom was going to die within the year, but I cautioned her to be ready for her to live well into her 90s (she's in her 70s). We sold our house and purchased one in her neighborhood and moved her in with us. This was 5 years ago.
2 vaccines and a booster shot and a steady diet of CNN 24/7 and the woman is still alive and kicking.
I've bitten my tongue for most of the 5 years but I lost control and blew up on her when she tried to tell me she didn't us to switch our mobile plan to a third party carrier that piggybacks off the Verizon network because they didn't have a customer service telephone number.
I was explaining to my wife why I wanted to switch to that service and why it was cheaper (no customer service telephone number) and she decided to interject herself into the conversation and try to take control of the decision. Never mind the fact we were paying for her phone (and my mom's phone) and I work in IT and handle any technical issues that come up.
I tried to brush her off but she wouldn't shut up and I ended up going off after she insulted my family (she doesn't even know them really) and said I had a "poverty mentality" because I wanted to lower our phone bill. I didn't hold back and I let 5 years of pent up frustration out on her, destroying any illusions she may have had of my real opinions of her. I may have even called her a brainwashed communist.
I shouldn't have done it, to be honest, but I've never been more at peace in the aftermath.
Why?
She is now giving me the "silent treatment" and actually believes it's some sort of punishment. That's narcissism in a nut shell right there.
Narcs are the kind of people who if you spend too much time around them, they can actually give the OTHERS around them a mental problem... and that's sayin somethin.
My MIL is a narcissist. She had heart surgery and my wife felt obligated to take care of her. She thought her mom was going to die within the year, but I cautioned her to be ready for her to live well into her 90s (she's in her 70s). We sold our house and purchased one in her neighborhood and moved her in with us. This was 5 years ago.
2 vaccines and a booster shot and a steady diet of CNN 24/7 and the woman is still alive and kicking.
I've bitten my tongue for most of the 5 years but I lost control and blew up on her when she tried to tell me she didn't us to switch our mobile plan to a third party carrier that piggybacks off the Verizon network because they didn't have a customer service telephone number.
I was explaining to my wife why I wanted to switch to that service and why it was cheaper (no customer service telephone number) and she decided to interject herself into the conversation and try to take control of the decision. Never mind the fact we were paying for her phone (and my mom's phone) and I work in IT and handle any technical issues that come up.
I tried to brush her off but she wouldn't shut up and I ended up going off after she insulted my family (she doesn't even know them really) and said I had a "poverty mentality" because I wanted to lower our phone bill. I didn't hold back and I let 5 years of pent up frustration out on her, destroying any illusions she may have had of my real opinions of her. I may have even called her a brainwashed communist.
I shouldn't have done it, to be honest, but I've never been more at peace in the aftermath. Why? She is now giving me the "silent treatment" and actually believes it's some sort of punishment. That's narcissism in a nut shell right there.
Narcs are the kind of people who if you spend too much time around them, they can actually give the OTHERS around them a mental problem... and that's sayin somethin.
My MIL is a narcissist. She had heart surgery and my wife felt obligated to take care of her. She thought her mom was going to die within the year, but I cautioned her to be ready for her to live well into her 90s (she's in her 70s). We sold our house and purchased one in her neighborhood and moved her in with us. This was 5 years ago.
2 vaccines and a booster shot and a steady diet of CNN 24/7 and the woman is still alive and kicking.
I've bitten my tongue for most of the 5 years but I lost control and blew up on her when she tried to tell me she didn't us to switch our mobile plan to a third party carrier that piggybacks off the Verizon network because they didn't have a customer service telephone number.
I was explaining to my wife why I wanted to switch to that service and why it was cheaper (no customer service telephone number) and she decided to interject herself into the conversation and try to take control of the decision. Never mind the fact we were paying for her phone (and my mom's phone) and I work in IT and handle any technical issues that come up.
I tried to brush her off but she wouldn't shut up and I ended up going off after she insulted my family (she doesn't even know them really) and said I had a "poverty mentality" because I wanted to lower our phone bill. I didn't hold back and I let 5 years of pent up frustration out on her, destroying any illusions she may have had of my real opinions of her. I shouldn't have done it, to be honest.
She is now giving me the "silent treatment" and actually believes it's some sort of punishment. That's narcissism in a nut shell right there.