"self-pitying martyr types with unresolved rage issues."

Shit, you described my mother...

And no she is not worthy of sympathy, she is a vicious emotional abuser. She didn't call names, she would actually do something very nice for me, then spend the next 6 months gaslighting and guilting over the fact she did something nice and I didn't "appreciate it" enough.

And before you ask, I am fine. I've long since worked though things and learned to deal with the person I was supposed to be nurtured by is a person worthy of contempt. My experience is Good friends who can open your eyes that it was them, not you, are worth everything, and therapy is largely useless.

"self-pitying martyr types with unresolved rage issues."

Shit, you described my mother...

And no she is not worthy of sympathy, she is a vicious emotional abuser. She didn't call names, she would actually do something very nice for me, then spend the next 6 months gaslighting and guilting over the fact she did something nice and I didn't "appreciate it" enough.

And before you ask, I am fine. I've long since worked though things and learned to deal with the person I was supposed to be nurtured by is a person worthy of contempt. My experience is Good friends who can open your eyes that is not wrong to dislike evil peoplem, even you parents, are worth everything, and therapy is useless.