First, I converted to broadly monotheistic from philosophical arguments. At this point, I knew that either Judaism, Christianity, or Islam had to be true, or that no religion had it right.
Then, I converted to broadly Christian from historical arguments regarding Christ's death and resurrection. At the point, I knew that Christ was God along with the Father and the Holy Spirit, that Christ died that I may have new life, and that God desired a personal, saving relationship with each and every person.
Many of the dividing lines between denominations weren't trivial. Things like infant baptism, what exactly are the sacraments, are we saved by faith, works, or a combination of the two, etc. were doctrinal points with massive implications for our lives. I was attending Baptist services at this point while trying to wrestle with this stuff.
Actually, on the atheist to Catholic path, that final step -- what denomination do I think is correct? -- was the one that took me the longest. Everything before that, once I started digging, felt like an easy choice.
It really came down to taking all of the doctrinal points that I was struggling with and weighing the arguments from each side against the Bible and against history (e.g. writings from Church fathers, councils, Protestant reformers, etc.), and commentary on these from modern apologists & theologians designed to be more accessible to modern audiences.
Definitely consult with your husband assuming he's well versed. There's more apologetical content than anyone could read in a year for any denomination. I could recommend specific things if I knew what your specific hangups were.
My last bits of advice: Study every side. For every person that supports x and argues against y, make sure to find someone that supports y and argues against x. And pray, pray, pray! I didn't do enough of that in the beginning, trying too much to rely on arguments and not seeking enough guidance from God -- I struggle with intellectual pride and I didn't really recognize it until well into my conversion, but it was becoming a stumbling block against continuing to progress.
As far as the actual "initiation" if you decide on Catholicism: If you were baptized in another denomination, chances are, the Church will recognize it so long as it used the Trinitarian formula. You would go to a local parish and attend a year long process studying what the Church believes, and then, come Easter, if you decide that you believe, you follow through with Confirmation and receive First Communion. This process is called RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults). At some parishes it's great, at some it's terrible -- depends on who's teaching it. At my parish, luckily, it's taught by an ex-Reformed minister who went to Reformed seminary but converted to Catholicism later in life -- as such, he could handle pretty much any objection you threw at him. Unfortunately, the process will feel redundant if you start it already having done your research and made your choice.
I was an atheist originally.
First, I converted to broadly monotheistic from philosophical arguments. At this point, I knew that either Judaism, Christianity, or Islam had to be true, or that no religion had it right.
Then, I converted to broadly Christian from historical arguments regarding Christ's death and resurrection. At the point, I knew that Christ was God along with the Father and the Holy Spirit, that Christ died that I may have new life, and that God desired a personal, saving relationship with each and every person.
Many of the dividing lines between denominations weren't trivial. Things like infant baptism, what exactly are the sacraments, are we saved by faith, works, or a combination of the two, etc. were doctrinal points with massive implications for our lives. I was attending Baptist services at this point while trying to wrestle with this stuff.
Actually, on the atheist to Catholic path, that final step -- what denomination do I think is correct? -- was the one that took me the longest. Everything before that, once I started digging, felt like an easy choice.
It really came down to taking all of the doctrinal points that I was struggling with and weighing the arguments from each side against the Bible and against history (e.g. writings from Church fathers, councils, Protestant reformers, etc.), and commentary on these from modern apologists & theologians designed to be more accessible to modern audiences.
Definitely consult with your husband assuming he's well versed. There's more apologetical content than anyone could read in a year for any denomination. I could recommend specific things if I knew what your specific hangups were.
My last bits of advice: Study every side. For every person that supports x and argues against y, make sure to find someone that supports y and argues against x. And pray, pray, pray! I didn't do enough of that in the beginning, trying too much to rely on arguments and not seeking enough guidance from God -- I struggle with intellectual pride and I didn't really recognize it until well into my conversion, but it was becoming a stumbling block against continuing to progress.
As far as the actual "initiation" if you decide on Catholicism: If you were baptized in another denomination, chances are, the Church will recognize it so long as it used the Trinitarian formula. You would go to a local parish and attend a year long process studying what the Church believes, and then, come Easter, if you decide that you believe, you follow through with Confirmation and receive First Communion. This process is called RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults). At some parishes it's great, at some it's terrible -- depends on who's teaching it. At my parish, luckily, it's taught by an ex-Reformed minister who went to Reformed seminary but converted to Catholicism later in life -- as such, he could handle pretty much any objection you threw at him. Unfortunately, the process will feel redundant if you start it already having done your research and made your choice.