You just have to be more involved. Talk to them like people, not babies. I talk to my oldest daughter about things regarding society, right and wrong etc. I try to keep her old school, she's 9 and one of the only ones in her class without a smart phone. WTF does a 9 year old need a smartphone for?!

I also keep them busy with sports and fun activities. We go skiing, swimming, shooting guns etc. I try to be an old school parent. Parents these days are complete pushovers. Their babies can do no wrong, so they let them push them around. No fucking way, I'm not afraid to punish my kids or give them a stern lecture.