My girlfriend was recently vaccinated after I told her not to get it, could someone please give me a reason not to end the relationship immediately? I love this girl but she still got the vaccine after I showed her everything that could go wrong. Am I at risk? If we stay together and have children in the future (if even possible still) would they be affected?
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We did talk about this, and we are quite open and honest about everything with each other, I just can’t see myself with someone that I wouldn’t be able to have children with in the future. (She is aware of that last bit)
Then you have your answer. It is unacceptable to you that the potential mother of your children would risk her health. What's holding you back?
I’m worried she’d hurt herself if we broke up, she’s not in a stable place at the moment due to some family issues. I still love her it’s just the fact that she saw everything and refused to care about even her own future
This is a bigger red flag ? you cannot fix her she needs to be willing to fix herself regardless of family issues. Scared to leave because she might hurt herself is a big flag. Easier to leave now than if you were married and had children. These are all symptoms of a much bigger problem. I mean this with respect and sincerity.
I agree. You shouldnt be with someone because they might hurt themselves. You are not her keeper, and honestly if she really wanted to, you couldnt stop her. It sounds like she needs professional help, which is a good thing but it is a journey that can be emotionally exhausting. Will your future children be affected? Who knows? But it sounds like with everything you told her she still didnt care, knowing how serious and worried you were about her health and the health of your future children. You can love someone but not be the right fit, it happens in life. Everyone deserves happiness and nobody should sacrifice theirs out of loyalty, guilt or even love. Being healthy mentally and emotionally as an individual is important before you become a couple. Maybe you both should work on that first or maybe you take what you learned from this relationship and leave. Either way, God bless you and good luck.
It sounds as though you are in a relationship simply due to guilt, fren. I’ve been in similar situations. I see some big red flags in that you have reason to fear for her well-being if you leave her. You are not solely responsible for the entirety of her happiness. You’re supposed to make her happy as her boyfriend, sure, but it’s not supposed to all hinge on you.
If you truly love her then I’d say to stay until things become more clear regarding the jab. But if you’re only with her due to fear of her well-being then my advice is to leave and let the pieces fall where they may. That is a sign of toxicity