Good morning Peres!
I haven’t been on here in awhile but I’m personally in a desperate situation and I know there are a number of believers here so.
I’ve asked a few other places online as well as everyone I know that is a believer in person and I want to ask here as well.
Straight up my finacé is addicted to meth. I’ve known for a while now but she just admitted it to me a few weeks back. I’ve been angry and bitter and sad and every other emotion imaginable. She is a believer and I have seen her weep and pray and beg God to help her.
I was thinking of cutting her out of my life completely but after serious prayer time I do not think the Lord wants me to do that.
This addiction is destroying her life, causing immeasurable pain for her daughter and selfishly crushing my heart as well.
I’d ask for prayer for her, prayer for the people she gets her drugs from, prayer for her daughter who she hasn’t seen in weeks on end now and prayer for myself that my anger doesn’t overtake me and I remain faithful to trust God in this very difficult time instead of taking matters into my own hands.
Thank you for reading. Believer or not. Thank you.
Stay strong Pede’s! May the Lord guide and keep each of us.
Sending prayers. Been down the addiction road myself (alcohol - 13.5 years sober).
There's a saying in recovery circles that everyone has to hit their own, personal "bottom" that is the start of turning things around. This can be a minor event or a major, life altering event depending on the individual. The secret is that everyone sets that "bottom" bar themselves and it can always be re-set to something more minor.
I used a non-religious program but have noticed that many of the tools are used are the same across various programs. She's admitted it, that's huge. Now she needs the sober time and space to learn some tools that will work for her.
Specially in the beginning, encouragement for every minute, hour and day of sobriety is a huge. I spent a lot of time in on-line chat with other folks and the mutual support was hugely beneficial. She can do this, she's lucky that you are there to support her. Keep the faith and keep praying.
The buckets are a great analogy, thank you for posting it.
In the recovery program I used, backsliding didn't set anyone back to zero. The days, weeks, months, years of sobriety before a lapse still counted and whatever you were doing during that period was working. Determine what went wrong, address it and get back on the horse (or wagon as it were).
Right there with you brother.... see my reply to OP somewhere in this thread. Congratulations on making it this far. As I always tell people when they try to praise me for years of sobriety, "Well, I didn't do it alone."