Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some tips re: how to have a close, connected relationship with my wife who's asleep. We have been drifting further apart since I started waking up since November. Do any of you have a GOOD STRONG CONNNECTED relationship with your spouse who's asleep? Any tips?
I'm not looking for tips on how to wake her up because often my attempts to red-pill has caused even more disconnect. I'm looking for tips for how to have a GOOD STRONG CONNECTED relationship despite the awake vs. asleep difference.
For context of our difference, my wife was double-vaxxed ASAP and disregards my conclusions about anything when people in authoritative positions say otherwise. We're both Christians, but it's different now. I think I was spiritually woken up and I see the world differently. She's asleep and not interested in waking up and I feel like she wants me to fall back asleep in order to connect. Problem is.. I don't want to go back to sleep. Any tips are appreciated!
Whatever you do, don’t back down and continue instead to guide her. Women want to follow and if you go back to sleep she will know it is you that are following her and she will resent you for it. Also remember this about women, they are remarkably strong/resilient/inclined when it comes to emotions and when you say something that is red pilled and she gets angry its actually OK. Strangely, you are making her FEEL something and even if it is bad, she feels alive. Conversely, if you were the perfect man that said all the perfect things she wanted to hear all the time, you would be boring to her and she would not FEEL anything and therefore feel dead inside. This is why women like bad boys and oddly stay with abusive partners. If you are too perfect and she gets bored, she will stir up her own energy to again get some kind of FEELINGS again; even negative - maybe pick a fight over nothing to see what kind of man you are (all subconsciously of course).
My point is that a woman being angry at you is actually a good sign if you don’t lay it on too thick. Let her FEEL YOU. Don’t control her with your attitudes but by all means, live authentically. When she gets mad at you as you are sure she will be, be “the mountain” and do not be emotional in response. Let her be “the weather” and let her rage as you remain “the mountain”. Treat her like she’s your kid sister when she expresses outrage at your Red Pill. Smile with amused mastery and just kind of be like a big brother in that moment. Don’t ever answer her emotion with emotion, that is a fail. Guide her. Forgive her. Be strong. Be authentic.
Thanks for the encouragement and perspective. I like the weather-to-the-mountain analogy.
I do too.
Haha the thought of a thunderstorm surrounding me while I smile in the rain while telling someone "that's my wife" is too much :P
Some excellent points though. Don't be a pushover, women like a man who knows what he stands for, not a "nice guy" that bows to her every whim.
Bowing is how you get left behind or "open marriages" to have someone fill the needs that you fail to cover.