They've got to learn somewhere. This is why I now have them. They lived in conditions "unfit for human habitation" as the Child Services worker said. I knew they were living in filth, but I had no earthly idea it was that bad. My daughter-in-law came from a family that weren't what you'd call "clean" people. I tried to tell my son that as I went to school with her mother. My son had to find out the hard way and soon they divorced. She got the kids and my son remarried and started a new life. He pays his child support but the daughter-in-law used it to buy meth, run around with all types of bad people, neglect my grandchildren and then feed them food from the dumpsters behind Walmart. The house was infested with roaches, bed bugs and the girls had "super" head lice. There was no running water and the commode was backed up. The refrigerator was no longer working and was molded up. Clothes were piled up everywhere and the Social Worker said it was not only unfit for humans, but a fire hazard as well. My son could not take his own children as the house they live in isn't big enough; but he lives right down the road from me and there was no one with me and my husband so we had two spare bedrooms. It has been a nightmare at times, but in the long run, it has been worth it. Hopefully I can change some things and make them responsible adults. I have to constantly stay on them about picking up after themselves, not throwing paper and pop cans in their room floors, pick up their dirty clothes, etc. They were NEVER taught. Sometimes I have to tell them "Look, this is the reason why you lost your home. It is not all your fault as your mother was supposed to teach you, but we can't continue living in filth. You do NOT want to lose your home or kids when you grow up do you. Well this is why you must learn to clean." They have no argument for that.