This decision can have such long term ramifications. I don’t mean to sound harsh but this is going to affect me now and I am stunned she did this without even consulting me. She knows how strong I feel about this and we could have talked about this together.
I know why she got the vaccine and I know her hands were tied. She didn’t want to get it and I would have held her hand and went through all lawsuits possible to get justice.
I might not be able to have kids with her.
When I was 19 I got engaged to a guy (although a Marine, I would not call him a man) who had a vasectomy without discussing it with me. A few days after we were getting frisky and I noticed the bruise from the procedure and asked what happened. It was a short conversation, but at the end he said he did it because he didn't think I would make a very good mother. (Well what 19 yo is?)
I threw him out a few weeks later after I had time to think through it and decide how I felt.
Today, I have two happy, healthy, children and am told regularly by teachers, extended family, and random strangers in public how great I'm doing with them.
Unilaterally making a decision that risks the ability to make a family without discussing with your partner for life breeds resentment forever. This is a marriage contract deal breaker.