Hey friends,
I've read many posts here on this topic, so looking to this community for advice. I think many of our familial, friend, and romantic relationships are being tested currently, and I'm looking for help on how to navigate my own.
My girlfriend (who I've seen as a future wife) and I have been together a while and are generally on the same page with all this chaos, she is totally against what is going on. However, recently both our jobs became a bit stricter in regards to their vaccine protocol. She told me today if her work ends up mandating it she will cave and get it even though she doesn't want to. I've told her she has free choice and while I disagree I would never tell her she can't do it.
With that said, I see this as a pretty giant red flag for anyone carrying this mindset. Me personally, if I don't want something in my body it is not going in under any circumstances regardless of who's asking (family, employer, etc.). If someone is willing to cave to their employer with this kind of pressure, what else will they cave to in life? How many other external influences will dictate their decisions?
She's a great girl and I love her dearly, but this whole situation has me questioning and reevaluating everything, including those I'm considering spending my life with. As much as I "trust the plan", things may not get better anytime soon and I want people by my side with backbones of steel.
Any advice from the community on this? Anyone else going through something similar? Looking to keep this as an open discussion, all feedback is appreciated.
Life is giving you a great big present with a bow on it: the opportunity to see how your potential future spouse will react when things get tough. And it doesn't look good if you want someone rock solid that you can count on to stand their ground.
Many of us have not listened to our inner promptings and gone ahead and married someone who we knew deep down was probably not the right mate for us. When you're in love, you don't want to hear or believe anything bad about the person you're crazy about. But if you don't pay attention to the red flags, misery awaits you down the road. I hate to say that, but it's true. Even moreso with all the potential sterility/genetic issues if she gets the shot.
Seems to me you've already reached the decision on some level that this is probably not the woman for you. Marriage is the biggest decision of your life. Hold out for the right one.
Thanks friend, I appreciate your wisdom. I'm going to be honest and present my feelings, then let the cards fall where they may.
This test is happening on an individual and global level, God is most definitely separating the wheat from the chaff.
Had the conversation. Didn’t get the strong, firm answer I was looking for.
I swear, God has a weird way of boiling these global events down to an impactful, individual level. It’s not something I totally understand right now, but I pray one day it becomes a bit clearer to help make this pain seem reasonable compared to the reward. Not a fun time.