Hey friends,
I've read many posts here on this topic, so looking to this community for advice. I think many of our familial, friend, and romantic relationships are being tested currently, and I'm looking for help on how to navigate my own.
My girlfriend (who I've seen as a future wife) and I have been together a while and are generally on the same page with all this chaos, she is totally against what is going on. However, recently both our jobs became a bit stricter in regards to their vaccine protocol. She told me today if her work ends up mandating it she will cave and get it even though she doesn't want to. I've told her she has free choice and while I disagree I would never tell her she can't do it.
With that said, I see this as a pretty giant red flag for anyone carrying this mindset. Me personally, if I don't want something in my body it is not going in under any circumstances regardless of who's asking (family, employer, etc.). If someone is willing to cave to their employer with this kind of pressure, what else will they cave to in life? How many other external influences will dictate their decisions?
She's a great girl and I love her dearly, but this whole situation has me questioning and reevaluating everything, including those I'm considering spending my life with. As much as I "trust the plan", things may not get better anytime soon and I want people by my side with backbones of steel.
Any advice from the community on this? Anyone else going through something similar? Looking to keep this as an open discussion, all feedback is appreciated.
Sometimes the hardest things to do is to try to understand the problem from the other person's eyes. Instead of allowing the vaccine to be a divisive wedge, focus on her job. Can she find another? Can she get a medical or religious exemption? Can she stall for a month more? My son's employer had mandated everyone had to get vaccinated and to my regret he caved because his wife and her mother are both drunk on Democrat kool-ade. Now his employer is backtracking because so many employees were ready to walk out. So the policy now allows medical, religious and "serious personal beliefs" as a way around it.
Things are changing as more employers are being challenged with discrimination and wrongful termination lawsuits. More data is coming out daily about the vaccines being dangerous. Help her to figure out a way around the mandate by searching for other employment opportunities with conservatives who believe medical decisions are between people and their doctors and want no parts of mandating. These are smaller than 100 person companies that are not covered by Biden's vax push.
The other way is to refuse the vaccine and make the employer fire her. Then sue them for wrongful termination. Often they'll settle with a lump sum payment to avoid the messy claims being made public. Rather than judging her, try to help her find what she values most about her job and what she doesn't like. I'd also advise that she consult with a labor lawyer to assess her situation and get legal opinion of her options. Good luck to you both.