Hey friends,
I've read many posts here on this topic, so looking to this community for advice. I think many of our familial, friend, and romantic relationships are being tested currently, and I'm looking for help on how to navigate my own.
My girlfriend (who I've seen as a future wife) and I have been together a while and are generally on the same page with all this chaos, she is totally against what is going on. However, recently both our jobs became a bit stricter in regards to their vaccine protocol. She told me today if her work ends up mandating it she will cave and get it even though she doesn't want to. I've told her she has free choice and while I disagree I would never tell her she can't do it.
With that said, I see this as a pretty giant red flag for anyone carrying this mindset. Me personally, if I don't want something in my body it is not going in under any circumstances regardless of who's asking (family, employer, etc.). If someone is willing to cave to their employer with this kind of pressure, what else will they cave to in life? How many other external influences will dictate their decisions?
She's a great girl and I love her dearly, but this whole situation has me questioning and reevaluating everything, including those I'm considering spending my life with. As much as I "trust the plan", things may not get better anytime soon and I want people by my side with backbones of steel.
Any advice from the community on this? Anyone else going through something similar? Looking to keep this as an open discussion, all feedback is appreciated.
But you said you have two years of funds to fall back on. So what do you mean you don’t have a Plan B? My question is if she can’t have kids and you’re married what’s your plan B? She could always take a vaccine later if she really feels it’s necessary, but once you take it, it’s too late, you can’t go back, you can’t take it back, and whatever damage is done to her body will be there. It could affect the future of your family, how many children you have, if any at all. If children are in your future, I would highly consider that.
Exactly, there is a plan B. I have a cushion and can ride this thing out for a couple years if I absolutely have to.
You’re absolutely right in your analysis, which is why I think I’m going to take the honesty route that others have suggested.
I wish you the best FREN! It sounds like you have a good relationship there. I’m sure when she speak with her, that things will pan out. It’s not easy for people these days, with all of the Pressures involved with life. But if she really wants to have a life with you, I have children with you, then this is a big hill to stand on for you both. God bless you both