I just need some prayers for my marriage. Just had a loud long fight with my wife. Some stuff came out that cant be put back in. We have 3 kids masked in school for 1.5 years. I am nearing my precipice. I dont know what to do, she is stuck in the go with the flow it will end soon. I know it wont. Our problems go back further than covid, I can see the societal brainwashimg effecr her, I have pointed out instamces, there is no listening just emotions.
She is Christian, but I dont know how much she looks to God for answers. I pray daily, many days multiple times.
I dont know I am rambling just dont know where to go with this, too many details to discuss, married for over 20 years. Please pray for my family.
I followed Old Timer's advise to get things started. I sat with my wife apologized for things I said, I told her I didn't know how to fix it, but for her to know I wanted to fix it. She started to talk about not knowing what to do. I said we can't fix it now, let's not go into it, let's just know we want to fix it. She apologized. Well that was a nice band aid, now comes the work. Any suggestions are welcomed.
Now that you are communicating about things, sit down with her and suggest you together make list of the things you both consider to be problems that need to be resolved. Then rank them from most important to least important. Then start discussing the least important ones first (low hanging fruit) and come up with solutions. Work your way up the list. As you both recognize each other's needs and wants, be gracious to one another and willing to put each other's needs before your own. If you get to a problem you can't resolve together, seek some help.
great suggestion, will try that soon. copying and pasting and emailing to myself.