I've seen it from the opposite end fren. I lost my dad earlier this year (72) who had suffered through years and years of tragic hospital visits (heart attacks, fell from a 2 story building, tree fell on him, hit and run motorcycle accident... encephalitis where he lost his mind for a few days)... Sadly I wish I was making any of it up, but it was to a point where we had normal routines to get ready to go to the hospital for the next round of recovery, just kind of figured he couldn't be killed. He wound up with an aggressive form of cancer that swooped in quick and in the end he "got" covid and died a day later, alone, because no one was allowed to be in the isolation ward.
I've had a hard time piecing things together myself. He was a God fearing man with his own set of faults, but at the end of the day he was an insanely loyal husband/father and he tried his best to set us on the right path. We had a lot of talks through the years about why God let everything happen to him, and I've been stuck trying to wade through that muddy water myself for the past few months (especially given the holidays)... There's no answer that can mend the wound. For me, I've just resigned myself to the fact that I can't blame God for something man created. It's not your fault, in my case not my dad's fault, in yours, not your sons fault, but man in general and the sin brought in to this world that we constantly have to battle against.
There's an unfortunate difference between being all knowing, and controlling every situation. This is the painful side of free will and being impacted by the decisions of others before us. Someday, maybe something he did, or something you'll do in his honor will impact someone's life in a way that just can't be understood yet. It won't make it any easier, and it won't be God's will that he had to die for something good to happen, but in the end, all that's left is some type of hope that it can mean something. I'll pray for your family, I can't even imagine the pain of losing a son, especially someone, from what you had described, who took such an investment of love and care by both you and your wife.
I've seen it from the opposite end fren. I lost my dad earlier this year (72) who had suffered through years and years of tragic hospital visits (heart attacks, fell from a 2 story building, tree fell on him, hit and run motorcycle accident... encephalitis where he lost his mind for a few days)... Sadly I wish I was making any of it up, but it was to a point where we had normal routines to get ready to go to the hospital for the next round of recovery, just kind of figured he couldn't be killed. He wound up with an aggressive form of cancer that swooped in quick and in the end he "got" covid and died a day later, alone, because no one was allowed to be in the isolation ward.
I've had a hard time piecing things together myself. He was a God fearing man with his own set of faults, but at the end of the day he was an insanely loyal husband/father and he tried his best to set us on the right path. We had a lot of talks through the years about why God let everything happen to him, and I've been stuck trying to wade through that muddy water myself for the past few months (especially given the holidays)... There's no answer that can mend the wound. For me, I've just resigned myself to the fact that I can't blame God for something man created. It's not your fault, in my case not my dad's fault, in yours, not your sons fault, but man in general and the sin brought in to this world that we constantly have to battle against.
There's an unfortunate difference between being all knowing, and controlling every situation. This is the painful side of free will and being impacted by the decisions of others before us. Someday, maybe something he did, or something you'll do in his honor will impact someone's life in a way that just can't be understood yet. It won't make it any easier, and it won't be God's will that he had to die for something good to happen, but in the end, all that's left is some type of hope that it can mean something. I'll pray for your family, I can't even imagine the pain of losing a son, especially someone, from what you had described, who took such an investment of love and care by both you and your wife.