Months ago, when the whole jab thing started, my mother and father in law were determined to get it, because TV told them so.
I advised them not to, and that they are going to damage themselves, multiple times, I event told them about how I ended paralised for a month as a kid when I received vaccine back then... Nothing... They went and did it. 3 times. So after that I basically told them I don't want to talk about it anymore.
Now my father in law, months later, as expected, got a serious pneumonia, lost ability to walk, or even sit in bed, lost control of his bowel movements, and ability to talk, so we are taking care of him the best we could trying not to loose our minds in the process... Showing up with a smile, trying to make their life easier, paying for bills, paying for medication, paying for diapers, and food, clipping his toe nails, cutting his hair and beard, changing diapers...
So on top of all that, wife and I were "politely asked" last night to respect my brother in law more, since he feels that "a lot is depending on him". Same brother in law who was organising excursions with the rest of the family to go for a group testing, to see what might be wrong with them... The same guy who cannot lift a bed matrace without having 2 people help him, while wife and I are the ones carrying his immobilised father around... Same guys who can buy both wife and me with his salary but is paying way less for their bad decisions, and the first thing he came to us with was "how are we going to divide the expanses"...
So I snapped, and yelled my lungs off. So my brother in laws, hypochondriac ass was insisting on them getting jabbed. They did it and we are stoically dealing with the damage made, because they are our parents. And I am accused that I am not "respecting" him enough by not being knowledgeable in ins and outs of hospitals and doctors and procedures and not getting the ideas "first" about where to drag the patient, next...
I am not proud of myself, my friends. I did not have "I told you so" moment at any point there. But I think that even the neighbors in next building heard about the boundaries that they will never be allowed to fucking cross with me...
The messed up thing is that I feel like a piece of shit, now, for allowing myself to go full dark mode.
You are not alone mate. I am fucking holding myself from exploding just like you, towards my idiot piece of shit brother in law. Same advice, told my inlaws not to take the poison, and especially my brother in law. I hoped he would convince his parents not to. The idiot took it himself nevermind advising his parents. Fast forward, father in law had a collapsed episode where I spent 3 days taking him to hospitals. Thankfully he is fine now (well not as good as he used to be) and active. Brother in law, lives overseas and basically gives zero fucks for his parents. I even got paranoid to the point that everytime the phone rang from my in laws, I was about to hear the worse. Fucking outrageous. What scares me most, is your scenario (sorry for the blunt honesty). I dont think how I would handle it. I have a feeling that with time, (months) things wont look pretty. I hope it doesnt but it is a constant fear from inside I cant control. Educated useless piece of shit of a moron. This is waht happens when you happen to have an NPC for a brother in law.