We are both in our thirties. My brother gained an incredible understanding of politics at a young age. He is VERY ANTI WOKE, to this day.
He’s always had a full time job, often 40-60 hrs weekly. Single guy, no children. Very upset about the stolen 2020 election, he was convinced we were going to civil war, like HOT war. Stopped working completely about 7 months ago.
He hates the idea of any type of work. Huge ego problem. No longer takes accountability. He stopped all drinking about 3 months ago. I was hoping we might see improvement. He has now achieved, what I believe to be his “final hollow form”. He sucks all joy from the room. He finds pleasure in absolutely nothing. He plays video games but he doesn’t even seem to enjoy those much anymore.
This is a guy who deeply understands the conversations between Jordan Peterson and Sam Harris. He had an INCREDIBLE wealth of self help knowledge. He has rehabilitated two very close friends with severe drug issues, years apart. Both success stories, not outstanding guys, but both turned their lives around.
He is also a huge fan of Jocko (if you’re not familiar, check him out. Legend has it he didn’t want to fill out any paperwork when his service with the SEAL team was up, he just left, end of story).
Today he helped me with a job. Standing near him was unfamiliar. I felt like I was standing next to a stranger. My brother and I were mostly inseparable until our 20’s. I know my brother better than anyone and it wasn’t him. It looked like him but his presence was spooky. I was actually looking forward to time with him today.
My mother, who had to drive him over (since he decided he no longer needs a vehicle) said she also was super disturbed by his presence today. She sobbed nearly half the car ride.
I’m a grown ass man. Being in the presence of my brother had me on the verge of a mental breakdown. He will not allow joy in his presence. He is a master at manipulating any situation into a miserable experience.
If this isn’t demonic possession, I’d greatly appreciate insight or input as to what you may believe we are witnessing.
JESUS CHRIST IS KING!!!!!
He needs his vitamin/mineral status checked.
Might be low b12 or low vitamin D.
Seriously. Do not ignore this. Personality changes are a big red flag. Get him help.
Concussions also produce personality alterations, sometimes quite severe. I agree with dirtypaperplate here, though, in him getting help. Nevertheless, I would dissuade you from going the psychiatry route due to the drug dependence it requires.
All this being said, with everything going on in this day and age, what I normally would have discounted as possession I can no longer rule out. All I do know is that everything I DID know has all been turned on its end.
I am sorry for your dilemma. Good luck. I hope you and your brother come through this alright.
YUP, totally agree. I was given psych meds instead of bloodwork which would have revealed my EXTREMELY LOW b12 and iron which can manifest as depression and other symptoms.
If its a psychiatric thing, it started with a nutritional deficiency I can almost guarantee it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nllc5CNryhk
This is a REALLY good point. I hope OP will ask his/her brother if he's fallen or been hit.
Reminds me of a story...
There's a guy who was shot and brought in for questioning...the officer interviewing this guy didnt realize the "suspect" had been shot through the eye and head. He was behaving very strange. Near the end of the interview the investigator FINALLY takes notice of the guys face and is like...omg youre shot in the head! Yeah no wonder homeboy was acting goofy...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qMcCXOnEYY
I’m VERY anti psychotropic drug. It almost ended my marriage and I don’t believe in divorce.
I cannot allow Globohomo to pump my family full of their chemicals.
Same! You Catholic?
This is why I stress nutritional deficiencies! So many people go to a psychiatrist for problems caused by low b12, iron, D, etc. Of course the drugs they push will only mask symptoms of that deficiency and even create NEW deficiencies.
I responded to you in another part of this thread and I forgot to add something about b12:
See what I mean? Your brother could simply need a $10 bottle of b12 or vitamin D. Please don't despair just yet. There's still several things to rule out.
Also, coming off alcohol, you need to put the vitamin B1 back. Sorry if I'm repeating myself.
My parents have offered EVERYTHING. Outpatient, inpatient, teletherapy, any form of help.
He’s a grown, very capable young man. We even staged an intervention and trapped him at a friends house months ago. He didn’t speak to me for weeks. He stopped drinking but was very mad at me.
How long did he drink heavily? Years?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-cHdcDjOWQk
Has anyone suggested or asked about nutritional deficiencies?
I believe this is very possible. I can’t imagine checking in every day to see if he’s taken his vitamins. I’m not shitting on your response, my response has been the same to most.
I feel like it’s the old “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink” to which I add, “and maybe it’s time to take a step back when the only solution that comes to mind is drowning the horse”
I will however say, if I suggest this to my mother, she might work really hard with him to get his nutrition on track. I hate to leave it in her hands but she has a wealth of time compared to me.
Diet alone can't fix some deficiencies. I would kindly suggest to him that if he feels depressed that he should get his vitamin D and b12 looked at. Maybe a full work up. If he's just mad at you, okay fine, but if his personality is changing or he's noticed himself withdrawn, it could be low D. It so common and the hospitals won't generally tell people about this.
I'd tell my own brother that he doesnt even have to talk to me but please listen and please consider a nutritional deficiency. People would be very understanding as, for example, b1 or b12 deficiency is debilitating.
Who is feeding him? Is he eating at your Mother's table?