We are both in our thirties. My brother gained an incredible understanding of politics at a young age. He is VERY ANTI WOKE, to this day.
He’s always had a full time job, often 40-60 hrs weekly. Single guy, no children. Very upset about the stolen 2020 election, he was convinced we were going to civil war, like HOT war. Stopped working completely about 7 months ago.
He hates the idea of any type of work. Huge ego problem. No longer takes accountability. He stopped all drinking about 3 months ago. I was hoping we might see improvement. He has now achieved, what I believe to be his “final hollow form”. He sucks all joy from the room. He finds pleasure in absolutely nothing. He plays video games but he doesn’t even seem to enjoy those much anymore.
This is a guy who deeply understands the conversations between Jordan Peterson and Sam Harris. He had an INCREDIBLE wealth of self help knowledge. He has rehabilitated two very close friends with severe drug issues, years apart. Both success stories, not outstanding guys, but both turned their lives around.
He is also a huge fan of Jocko (if you’re not familiar, check him out. Legend has it he didn’t want to fill out any paperwork when his service with the SEAL team was up, he just left, end of story).
Today he helped me with a job. Standing near him was unfamiliar. I felt like I was standing next to a stranger. My brother and I were mostly inseparable until our 20’s. I know my brother better than anyone and it wasn’t him. It looked like him but his presence was spooky. I was actually looking forward to time with him today.
My mother, who had to drive him over (since he decided he no longer needs a vehicle) said she also was super disturbed by his presence today. She sobbed nearly half the car ride.
I’m a grown ass man. Being in the presence of my brother had me on the verge of a mental breakdown. He will not allow joy in his presence. He is a master at manipulating any situation into a miserable experience.
If this isn’t demonic possession, I’d greatly appreciate insight or input as to what you may believe we are witnessing.
JESUS CHRIST IS KING!!!!!
I feel ya! Sounds like my younger brother. I now refuse to go to any event that he is going to be at, and I will immediately leave if he shows up. I will not be treated badly and I can not watch as he treats everyone else this way. He used to be great, so much fun. One day he changed, like a switch was flipped. He sucks the joy out of every moment, at any and all events where the family gets together. If anyone is having a good time he seeks them out and trash talks them, bring up dumb stuff that may have happened WAY back in the 80s-90s. He tries to get people to argue or fight with him and when they don't fight with him he will go reignite fights between family members who have worked things out long ago.
Totally toxic. My Mom says it is the drinking, but she is wrong. Maybe the drinking triggered the change, but he is a mean spirit even when not drinking. Drinking alone and listening to Eminem constantly is what did it I bet. Horrible music and messages. I was thinking it may be similar to demonic possession,... something called "oppression" which is when a mean spirit (not demon) is able to get in and override a persons spirit. It happens often to drinkers who are in such a low, low place in their heart and they drink the "spirits" until they black out. In this vulnerable state another spirit could enter, and would have access to a persons memories and feelings. Over time that bad spirit takes more and more control
I have tried to help him, but he does not want help, he is in love with himself and his new joy sucking spirit. He became very vindictive because I was trying to help him and also attacked me physically. Sucker punched me out of the blue for something I supposedly said to him 20 years ago, left a mighty scar. So, I am just done with him. I miss my real brother, I have accepted that he probably gone for good. :(
I’m starting to feel this acceptance you speak of and I think it’s why this feels more real now than anytime in the past.
I’m really sorry to hear this is something your family has endured. It’s been incredibly hard on my parents and I.
It’s crazy he doesn’t even want to have a vehicle or a job anymore. His tiny house was just recently paid off so I guess he plans to just sit inside and rot away.